Feminine Body Language Secrets – Part 1

Hello, lovelies! This week’s hot topic is: BODY LANGUAGE. Body language counts for over 50% of what you are communicating, so this is a huge part of your feminine image.

Body language consists of:

  1. Posture
  2. Gestures
  3. Facial expressions
  4. Eye contact

I’m going to talk about posture in Part 1 of my “Feminine Body Language Secrets” series.

Here are the 3 biggest differences between the way men and women hold their bodies:

1. Open vs. closed

The #1 posture rule you need to remember is that women take up less space than men. This might seem obvious, but I’m amazed at many girls forget to keep their legs together and their elbows in. (Genetic girls, too!)

Open body positions are associated with the display of power. Besides making you look more passive and feminine, a closed body position makes you appear physically smaller.

2. Straight vs. curved


Sexy women are all about the curves, including the way they hold their bodies.

Next time you’re standing in line somewhere, notice how many women put their weight onto one leg, thrusting their hip out. This creates an S-shaped curve in the body. Notice how men tend to stand with their weight evenly spread over both feet.

You can create this S-curve with your body when you are sitting, too. Either cross your legs or put your weight onto one hip.

3. Weight forward vs. weight neutral

Have you ever noticed how many men lean forward at the shoulders – particularly if they are trying to establish their dominance? Contrast this to women, who tend to keep their shoulders back and their weight neutral.

Keeping your weight evenly balanced can be tricky in heels, so you need to be especially careful not to lean forward when you are standing or walking. (You shouldn’t lean back either – so get out those stilettos and practice, practice, practice!)

I’ll discuss gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact in my next blog post. But in the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! What other subtle body language differences have you noticed between men and women?


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  1. Wow I never noticed this but how I stand and hold my self is natural for me I always put weight on one leg when I’m standing and my stance is neutral I can’t stand with my shoulders forward this is awesome so natural for me

  2. i love this feminine body i just want my boobs and i would love to have good frends to chat to and help me xx linda of invercargill nz

  3. I am a smoker. i realized a very femme thing was i was sittin in a chair and my legs were close kneed with my ankle wrapped around. sittin askew in my chair away from who i was talking to. I created an s curve and had my elbow o n my right tucked in wilst holding my cigg. hand straight in air cigg in air and left shoulder. in with hand tucked in just above the knees it felt right. you never see a man sit and smoke like this. ever. just women. men can’t do it with out fidgeting or fumbling or completely. losing their cigg.

  4. Hi
    Just as what jasmine has said it’s hard to do good postire with that thing between my legs not to mention walking and sitting what is your edvice?

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