Feminine Body Language Secrets – Part 1

Hello, lovelies! This week’s hot topic is: BODY LANGUAGE. Body language counts for over 50% of what you are communicating, so this is a huge part of your feminine image.

Body language consists of:

  1. Posture
  2. Gestures
  3. Facial expressions
  4. Eye contact

I’m going to talk about posture in Part 1 of my “Feminine Body Language Secrets” series.

Here are the 3 biggest differences between the way men and women hold their bodies:

1. Open vs. closed

The #1 posture rule you need to remember is that women take up less space than men. This might seem obvious, but I’m amazed at many girls forget to keep their legs together and their elbows in. (Genetic girls, too!)

Open body positions are associated with the display of power. Besides making you look more passive and feminine, a closed body position makes you appear physically smaller.

2. Straight vs. curved


Sexy women are all about the curves, including the way they hold their bodies.

Next time you’re standing in line somewhere, notice how many women put their weight onto one leg, thrusting their hip out. This creates an S-shaped curve in the body. Notice how men tend to stand with their weight evenly spread over both feet.

You can create this S-curve with your body when you are sitting, too. Either cross your legs or put your weight onto one hip.

3. Weight forward vs. weight neutral

Have you ever noticed how many men lean forward at the shoulders – particularly if they are trying to establish their dominance? Contrast this to women, who tend to keep their shoulders back and their weight neutral.

Keeping your weight evenly balanced can be tricky in heels, so you need to be especially careful not to lean forward when you are standing or walking. (You shouldn’t lean back either – so get out those stilettos and practice, practice, practice!)

I’ll discuss gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact in my next blog post. But in the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! What other subtle body language differences have you noticed between men and women?


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  1. I agree, Susan, it is very tricky. But it’s also SUPER important. There are lots of tips and tricks to improving your body language, and the whole thing can get confusing and overwhelming, so here’s my advice. Start with these two crucial, very helpful, and surprisingly easy tips, and you might find everything else starts to fall in line from there. What two tips? 1. Keep your shoulders BACK and don’t swing them when you walk. Remember that women do want their breasts to be seen, but they don’t want them to flop or wiggle. 2. Keep your knees together. This makes you rotate your hips for a feminine walk. A woman friend told me that I should always remember to do this because women are always “protecting” what’s in between (and a little higher up).

    • Can I give you advice? Take smaller strides placing one foot in front of the other, this will give you that feminine hip sway. The rest will follow.

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