Feminine Body Language Secrets – Part 1

Hello, lovelies! This week’s hot topic is: BODY LANGUAGE. Body language counts for over 50% of what you are communicating, so this is a huge part of your feminine image.

Body language consists of:

  1. Posture
  2. Gestures
  3. Facial expressions
  4. Eye contact

I’m going to talk about posture in Part 1 of my “Feminine Body Language Secrets” series.

Here are the 3 biggest differences between the way men and women hold their bodies:

1. Open vs. closed

The #1 posture rule you need to remember is that women take up less space than men. This might seem obvious, but I’m amazed at many girls forget to keep their legs together and their elbows in. (Genetic girls, too!)

Open body positions are associated with the display of power. Besides making you look more passive and feminine, a closed body position makes you appear physically smaller.

2. Straight vs. curved


Sexy women are all about the curves, including the way they hold their bodies.

Next time you’re standing in line somewhere, notice how many women put their weight onto one leg, thrusting their hip out. This creates an S-shaped curve in the body. Notice how men tend to stand with their weight evenly spread over both feet.

You can create this S-curve with your body when you are sitting, too. Either cross your legs or put your weight onto one hip.

3. Weight forward vs. weight neutral

Have you ever noticed how many men lean forward at the shoulders – particularly if they are trying to establish their dominance? Contrast this to women, who tend to keep their shoulders back and their weight neutral.

Keeping your weight evenly balanced can be tricky in heels, so you need to be especially careful not to lean forward when you are standing or walking. (You shouldn’t lean back either – so get out those stilettos and practice, practice, practice!)

I’ll discuss gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact in my next blog post. But in the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! What other subtle body language differences have you noticed between men and women?


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  1. Hi Lucille I’m not sure this the right place to talk about it but today was the first chance I’ve had lately I’ve been moving my stuff to storage till I get a place to live I’ve got one more day tomorrow to get my stuff mainly just boxes now I’ve got to get some rest and beauty sleep too Love M.J.

  2. I know I’ll get there I’m just out of practice for sure I know she’s still in there she shows herself more than I’m aware I’m sure I’ll soon be spending more time if not most of my time en femme when I get back on my own I’m determined to bring the girl in me back out I’m tired of trying to play the man I love the girl I am inside and its time I let her strut her stuff again

  3. When I was younger in my preteens I carried myself and sat just like my mom & sisters as I grew older and after many beatings I slowly taught myself to look more male in my posturing and sitting and now that has become habit after 40 odd years I still exhibit some feminine posturing the way I stand the classic one leg stance of a female mostly goes unnoticed but such things as when I sit down I do have a tendency to spread my legs like a male I can cross my legs but I do have some trouble in this area I keep trying to force myself back into my old habits but they still seem forced and I’m not sure how to break myself from the male posturing and get back to being the girl I am inside mainly crossing my legs is difficult either from too much muscle mass or their just too tight to allow it I’m not sure I tend to go with the latter I don’t think my legs are that big hahaha lol M.J.

  4. Firzt let me say that blogs like this are fantastic help to a gurl starting out. When my gf and I are out in a club somewhere, apparently, if im talking to someone I make lil twizzles in my hair with my index finger, widen my eyes and move my weight from one hip to the other in 6″ heels, wiggling my bottom as I do.

    She says i look a total girly flirt. I’m not aware of this at all, I’ve noticed I’ve developed a lil girly giggle though.
    I learnt a long time ago, you must put away all masculinity, and truly believe in the feminine inner you and let her out to enjoy your altered sexuality, the more i believe in myself as a sexy women the more a sexy woman i become.

  5. I agree, Susan, it is very tricky. But it’s also SUPER important. There are lots of tips and tricks to improving your body language, and the whole thing can get confusing and overwhelming, so here’s my advice. Start with these two crucial, very helpful, and surprisingly easy tips, and you might find everything else starts to fall in line from there. What two tips? 1. Keep your shoulders BACK and don’t swing them when you walk. Remember that women do want their breasts to be seen, but they don’t want them to flop or wiggle. 2. Keep your knees together. This makes you rotate your hips for a feminine walk. A woman friend told me that I should always remember to do this because women are always “protecting” what’s in between (and a little higher up).

    • Can I give you advice? Take smaller strides placing one foot in front of the other, this will give you that feminine hip sway. The rest will follow.

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