Are you a crossdresser or transgender woman who wants to feel more confident as your female self?
Maybe you didn’t get the chance to learn important feminine skills growing up, like how to do makeup, put together outfits, or understand female friendships. It can feel like you missed out without someone to guide you, like a mother, sister, or friend.
Though you can’t turn back time and have that imaginary big sister to guide you, there’s still a lot you can learn from cisgender women in your everyday life.
In this blog post, we’ll explore 6 valuable lessons you can learn from cis women. Let’s dive in!
Lesson 1: Style and Fashion
Looking to women for fashion inspiration is a fantastic idea. They can give you ideas on how to pick flattering and feminine clothes and accessories.
Pay attention to stylish women who catch your eye and notice what makes them stand out.
What kind of clothes and accessories are they wearing? How casual or formal is their style? Are there specific colors or prints that attract your attention?
These are all valuable lessons that can inspire your own unique style.
Lesson 2: Makeup Techniques
Lots of women have gathered a ton of knowledge and skills in makeup application over the years.
By observing and learning from them, you can get some great ideas on how to use makeup to enhance your own femininity.
The next time you see an attractive woman, whether it’s in public, online, or on TV, pay attention to her makeup.
How much makeup is she wearing? Is her look more natural or dramatic? Is she emphasizing a specific feature, like her eyes or lips?
Lesson 3: Body Language and Gestures
By watching cisgender women’s body language and gestures, you can gain valuable insights into feminine mannerisms and behavior.
Learning how to move, sit, and gesture in a more feminine manner can help you present yourself authentically and confidently.
Pay attention to how women carry themselves. Do they cross their legs or place their hands on their hips? How’s their posture? Are their movements soft and subtle or big and bold?
Lesson 4: Self-Care and Grooming
Having self-care routines, like taking care of your skin, hair, and grooming, can really help you achieve a polished and feminine look.
You can learn a lot from women’s self-care habits and develop routines that enhance your own femininity.
Take a look at the self-care practices of women around you, whether it’s your partner, girlfriend, sister, or mother.
You can also check out women’s blogs and magazines to discover more about skincare, haircare, and other self-care routines that you might want to try out.
Lesson 5: Communication and Emotional Intelligence
Women are often really good at communication and emotional intelligence.
Learning how to express yourself clearly, listen actively, and handle emotions can improve your relationships and help you connect with your own feelings.
Take note of how women interact with others when you’re out in public or watching TV shows or movies. Observe the words they use and their overall manners and demeanor.
Lesson 6: Confidence and Self-Acceptance
Cisgender women have often dealt with societal pressures and expectations, but they’ve learned valuable lessons in embracing their unique qualities and building self-confidence.
You can find inspiration from strong and confident women all around you, whether they’re people you know in real life, public figures, or even fictional characters.
In conclusion
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman looking to embrace your best female self, there’s a lot you can learn from the women around you.
At the same time, I encourage you to hold yourself to a high standard. Some of these women might later look to you as an example of strength and beauty!
Now, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic. What have you learned from observing cisgender women? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hardly an overlooked tip as it comes up fairly frequently on the TG forums and probably needs to be qualified, Lucille. My wife and I were people watching at the mall the other day (this was a luxury mall)and maybe one in every ten women was well put together. You know it when you see it. Many times you can tell when an outfit doesn’t resonate – you just don’t know why.
Better idea would be to create a look book of outfits that you like. Maybe compare it to what you see around you. Probably your better dressed women are the sales girls in the shops’
For years I subscribed to the philosophy to blend in. Not so much now because we may not anyway. Better to stand out in a good way and be the person they admired for being a sharp dresser whatever your personal style may be
But you didn’t take a position 🙂
I don’t think it’s an overlooked tip either, but a lot of times people don’t know what to look for. That’s why I broke it down into specifics and suggested noticing what attracts your attention in a good *and* bad way.
And I agree about standing out in a good way! I actually talk about the “blending in” vs. “standing out” debate here:
https://feminizationsecrets.com/transgender-blend-in-stand-out-woman/
Thanks for the enlightening thoughts! 🙂
I remember you giving this tip before and it is so true that even Ciswomen and Cisgirls are always checking each other out. The worse group are teenage girls and that is because they are trying to learn how to be a women themselves. Lets face it who is the most apt to out you in public but a teenage girl. I found that I am always looking and learning on how to be a woman and I have now been living full time for over three years. I will say it is not much more easy for me to be that woman I truly am.
Great advise… Thanks Lucille!
And… Don’t forget, if your happy, a spring in your step, a smile on your face, and confident, you’ll do great, no mater how you present. Most everyone loves a happy person. It’s a positive energy that can help change another person’s day for the better.
I couldn’t agree more, Steve!
Even though we are no longer together, I have taken wardrobe tips from my ex. She was always dressed tastefully and elegantly outside the house, whether is was a pair of slacks and a silk blouse or a dress and heels she was polished, fashionable and refined. And yes, she even had many different pairs of shoes with colors and styles to match a particular outfit. In fact, in the 80’s when they were available, she even had her daywear match an outfit. She had bras, panties and slips in colors such as peach, lavender, red, of course, navy, etc. etc. In building my wardrobe, I have taken points from her’s.
I have found that going to the mall gives you the opportunity to “girl watch” to see how they carry themselves. Of course you can tell immediately the well dressed and elegant person from the “slob.” It kills me inside to see a genetic woman who doesn’t take the time or the effort to take care of herself. Typically, when a woman goes through the effort to look and dress nicely, their confidence and self esteem goes through the roof! I hope I am able to emulate that type of woman.
Thank you Lucille for your effort in providing these tips and products to help us transition.
Deb
Yeah Baby ! That’s how always did it. My wife even said I had good taste. Maybe that’s why there’s so many men designers.
I agree it’s the best type of schooling for trans-women. For me personally a lot of my being feminine is attributed to my observation of genetic females. Many of my best relationships have been with women, platonic and respectful. I have had women even give me outfits and jewelry.
Thanks Lucille for this most overlooked tip which I have been fortunate enough to use myself, and continue to do it everyday.
Thanks Holly!
You are looking stylish and pretty!
That is a great tip.
Before, during, and after my transition I was lucky enough to work in offices where the men outnumbered women at least three to one. So I got lots of good and a few not so good examples of what to adopt in my own presentation.
By watching other women, I learned that there is a way to be casual, but stylish. I also learned that if you are tall, act like you’re proud of it. One of the best compliments I ever got came from a young woman in an aerobics class who told me “you’re the envy of everyone in here!”
Thank you.
And I meant that the women outnumbered the men three to one at places where I worked.
I started my transition at the age of 28, but it took me a long time because I was so scared.
How fun, you look great. I would of never know you transitioned from your picture. At what age did you transition? might be hope for me yet someday.
Lucille, that is a marvelous tip and it is something I always try to do!!
Thank you, and that’s great! 🙂