Are you a crossdresser or transgender woman who wants to feel more confident as your female self?
Maybe you didn’t get the chance to learn important feminine skills growing up, like how to do makeup, put together outfits, or understand female friendships. It can feel like you missed out without someone to guide you, like a mother, sister, or friend.
Though you can’t turn back time and have that imaginary big sister to guide you, there’s still a lot you can learn from cisgender women in your everyday life.
In this blog post, we’ll explore 6 valuable lessons you can learn from cis women. Let’s dive in!
Lesson 1: Style and Fashion
Looking to women for fashion inspiration is a fantastic idea. They can give you ideas on how to pick flattering and feminine clothes and accessories.
Pay attention to stylish women who catch your eye and notice what makes them stand out.
What kind of clothes and accessories are they wearing? How casual or formal is their style? Are there specific colors or prints that attract your attention?
These are all valuable lessons that can inspire your own unique style.
Lesson 2: Makeup Techniques
Lots of women have gathered a ton of knowledge and skills in makeup application over the years.
By observing and learning from them, you can get some great ideas on how to use makeup to enhance your own femininity.
The next time you see an attractive woman, whether it’s in public, online, or on TV, pay attention to her makeup.
How much makeup is she wearing? Is her look more natural or dramatic? Is she emphasizing a specific feature, like her eyes or lips?
Lesson 3: Body Language and Gestures
By watching cisgender women’s body language and gestures, you can gain valuable insights into feminine mannerisms and behavior.
Learning how to move, sit, and gesture in a more feminine manner can help you present yourself authentically and confidently.
Pay attention to how women carry themselves. Do they cross their legs or place their hands on their hips? How’s their posture? Are their movements soft and subtle or big and bold?
Lesson 4: Self-Care and Grooming
Having self-care routines, like taking care of your skin, hair, and grooming, can really help you achieve a polished and feminine look.
You can learn a lot from women’s self-care habits and develop routines that enhance your own femininity.
Take a look at the self-care practices of women around you, whether it’s your partner, girlfriend, sister, or mother.
You can also check out women’s blogs and magazines to discover more about skincare, haircare, and other self-care routines that you might want to try out.
Lesson 5: Communication and Emotional Intelligence
Women are often really good at communication and emotional intelligence.
Learning how to express yourself clearly, listen actively, and handle emotions can improve your relationships and help you connect with your own feelings.
Take note of how women interact with others when you’re out in public or watching TV shows or movies. Observe the words they use and their overall manners and demeanor.
Lesson 6: Confidence and Self-Acceptance
Cisgender women have often dealt with societal pressures and expectations, but they’ve learned valuable lessons in embracing their unique qualities and building self-confidence.
You can find inspiration from strong and confident women all around you, whether they’re people you know in real life, public figures, or even fictional characters.
In conclusion
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman looking to embrace your best female self, there’s a lot you can learn from the women around you.
At the same time, I encourage you to hold yourself to a high standard. Some of these women might later look to you as an example of strength and beauty!
Now, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic. What have you learned from observing cisgender women? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi, Lucille! I can tell you, after having spent a year as a cosmetology student in a school full of women, I couldn’t agree more with this tip. It isn’t just in what to wear and how to do hair and makeup; it’s about thoughts and speech and actions and emotions and all kinds of things.
My femme self was no secret there; I’ve been going to the school as a client for years before becoming a student. As such, I wasn’t given the ‘man’ treatment and was, for the most part, treated as one of the girls. It was quite an interesting 15 months, let me tell you! 🙂
Lucille, what an amazing tip! It really works!
Lucille
I want to thank you so much for your helpfulness over the years. I could not agree more with you that one must study women to know how to present as a woman. When I first came out on Jan 1, 2013 to a very trusted woman friend and neighbor of mine, I commented to her that I had always admired her makeup and style. She has become a mentor to me and always makes comments on my appearance whether it be good or bad. For instance, she said “never let the color of your bra show through”. I just wasn’t aware of that. I am sad to say that many women I observe at the malls and shops seem to dress as if they have given up trying to look good. Myself, I get at lot of looks possibly because I dress with class and good taste when out shopping and that makes me smile constantly. I am confident I look as good or better than many and will continue my journey. Love you girls all.
Dana
Lucille,
This is such an important tip. I have learned that being relaxed and comfortable with who you are and how you look go a long way to becoming passable. The voice took some work. The attire wasn’t too hard but the make up and the movement are taking some practice. That’s why I study.
Abbie
Lucille,
Thanks for the tips. I’ve studied women for some time now and learned it’s best to be classy not trashy.
I’ve notice women for sometime now what they were make up I like to say I’ve gotten pretty good at there body language. I’ve notice most girls give me a smile and stare at me for a second.
I’ve started looking at the clothes trying to see and how they mix and match there outfits and purse etc. Thanks for the tip Lucille
Hi Lucille,
I have learned to observe women through the years because I write stories. So I have had the opportunity to really study actions, attire and so on. Unfortunately not many women in my area really go out of their way to make themselves attractive. There are a few though which have impressed me greatly. Especially hairstyle and clothing. Makeup is not a big issue here although there are a few that moderately use it. Since I started working for a hotel I have had a chance to get a wider view of women from other areas. I believe I am learning a lot.
To my thinking, clothes and hair notwithstanding, the lack of makeup detracts from what could otherwise be an attractive woman. You don’t need a lot, some mascara, a little blush,lipstick of course. Somehow I don’t think you’d catch Lucille without her makeup.
Its funny you say this cause i know for years i have been doing this already and the way you explained it was the same reason why i was doing what you said people like u should do which i think that my study have been paying off cause i know that after study and adaptation that normally even when i am forces to be in guy mode i get called a lady and referred to as her half of the time and this is with me not being dressed so i think it is paying off but the study is never over so i would agreed with the 100% thanks you for being there for us