Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
Hello all,
In addition to the 10 comments above I would like to add, its important to be patient with yourself as you move along in your growth. Don’t be too hard on yourself and try not to get too frustrated, as we all often feel overwhelmed from time to time.
Gravitate to people who are positive and those who motivate you.
Best wishes,
Tuesday
My unsolicited advice:
Ladies! If you are totally passable….Do not EVER under any circumstances lie about your gender if relationships are “progressing”. I haven’t been looking for a relationship but I find being honest has allowed me to develop some great friendships! By the way I like your site!
Now that I am retired and 73, I live my life pretty much now 24/7 as a woman. My goal is to just try and blend in without attracting attention as any other woman out and about doing her thing. I am very confident in my ability to be accepted by others when I am out a a normal lady. It’s good to that I am only 5’6” and 150 lbs. Here I am yesterday at a local mall out shopping, what do you think?
the 30 day crash course link for the voice feminization program does not work. Is there any chance this can be fixed or you can lead me to a link that works?
Thank you, I have found your articles very informative.
Just celebrated my Sixty and Sexy Birthday with my little sister. Her support and advice means the world to me
My first make up I learned from her. I have been taking free classes at Sephora and found their hoghlights and contouring class very transformative for me. I use extra virgin olive oil to take my makeup off and found this was common among people taking the make up classes. My best advice is have fun – with make up – with fashion – with others-
Sephora has free make up classes
The highlights and eyebrow classes were my favorites and transformed my look
I love exploring how colors alter my looks
I l love purple
Resale shops and estate sales are my favorite Sourse of fun fashion finds
I treasure the advice you have give and it has helped me over and over
Sandy Alice
I find that just being myself is enough. I know who I am and I love to wear dresses that flatter my figure. I don’t “over-do” it when I’m in public and I’ve found that people don’t really notice you that much anyway. I’ve gotten a few glances but i’m convinced that it’s a flattery to my womanhood and my ability to pass as a woman rather than people seeing me as someone different. I love getting those “may I help you ma’am” questions… now that’s sexy to me. I love being who I am but most of all, I LOVE being Catherine Nicole!
Hi Lucille honey goodness girlfriend I’m sorry I really don’t know if it’s possible but I wish there were some way you could add yet another freebies category for us poor deprived broken girls such as myself who have to resort to begging for help with “Voice Feminization” I know it’s so much to ask for from Santa and I know your not Santa although I think your much much sweeter not to mention so much more beautiful and on top of it all your an actual really real person that truly exists so Mrs. Claus eat your heart out Lucille is taking over ok I’m kind of pushing my luck with this huh! But I have to try anything is helpful and you’ve already helped us all so very much we all Love You Lucille Love MJ lol