Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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hi, I have already had my new voice I been doing yoga at home I have the moves the current thing is to do body hair treatments for the last 8 years. I have been drinking spearmint tea, eating fruits and veggies and nuts I lost 35 pounds I am at 195 lbs waiting to reach 160 lbs 35 more to go
I had just turned 50 two years ago, but still I decided to try a mature rock chick look during a make-over and photo shoot in Amsterdam. Maybe a bit ‘out of range’ for my age, but I’m so glad I did it. After all, as a man, I still wear the occasional band shirt and leather jacket… so why shouldn’t Cynthia do that? 😉
You’re very welcome sweetie. Is there any way of possibly emailing privately without putting addresses in public view ?
With that look,i don’t think you have to worry about anything being out of range.
That’s so nice of you. Thank you, dear!
I luv the pics! I think you really rocked the look!!
Thank U for the sweet comment! 😉
I hope that I dress correctly for my age and size, I get many positive feedbacks. My big concern is that I started on hormones, without medical advice, I have stopped the pills a number of times, this time for 18 days, but the feminising process has continued, when I wanted it to stop, I am now laying down fat in all the girly places, ready to have a baby that I certainly can’t have, my skin feels like it belongs to someone else and is so soft and sensitive its scary, I have the onset of prostate cancer, which is under control, why I started the pill, any way back towards a more male me, my boobs are now becoming a problem, to hide. xx
I’m 53…this pic is typical of my wardrobe choices. Am I age-approriate? Thanks
Michelle, I found these jeans on the Nordstrom website. I just looked up my measurements and the jeans fit perfectly. Thank you for the compliment
I think it looks great Michelle. We do love to look a little stylish, don’t we!
Thank you so much Renee! I think you look spectacular! Those jeans are amazing! I’ve been looking for a pair that fit me like that, but just can’t seem to find them anywhere. Any suggestions? –Michelle
Michelle, you look great, wish i could look half as nice as you, have fun Gurl.
Michelle, you are blessed with a great body shape (and great legs too) which means those clothes look appropriate on you.
You have a look to be envious of .
I love the look Michelle. The bright colors and length of your dress makes you look younger.
I think you look simply divine darling!
I think you look divine darling!
My voice will always give me away. I have trouble being age appropriate. I do better with activity appropriate. At 70 I still wear a bikini or shorts and a tank top or cami. I never forget to have fun! That is my whole reason for pretending to be a girl!
I am a transwoman and enjoy all the aspects of being who I am. I am also bisexual which enjoyment is the key to any relationships. Yes, to dress age appropriate is very important along with all the other issues. Excuse the pun but it is hard being us.
Although I agree with the dressing age appropriate, I also disagree with that. I believe if you are 50 , there’s nothing wrong with wearing leggings and athletic attire. Now this is where I think this “rule” should or could apply is; if you can do your wardrobe justice, then go for it!! I’m an active transgender woman, compete in cycling and wear athletic clothes all the time. I’ve never been told that it looks out of place by my lady friends. If your body type doesn’t suit the look or attire, don’t do it!
I’ve found Reddit to be an invaluable source for free & friendly advice on feminising your voice, try r/transvoice 🙂