Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
Lots of great advice thank you for creating such a wonderful page.
beautiful
Can I be turned into a beautiful lady.
Patrick , Yes you can be turned into a beautiful lady it just takes a little practice and yes a little work , First thing you might want to do is ask a woman that you know and trust for some help and listen to what she offers for some advice.
Thank you so very much for this article. It gave me that much needed kick in the, well you know what.lol.. Here’s me I’m going to leave a few comments on some of the beautiful ladies who posted on here aswell. Thanks Agen.
…BeGood…⛅
i often have an intuitive sensor upon the natural gender of folk. :3 thus far, everyone here’s soul is completely femme, my inner eye see’s you as femme. 😉
a few months back, i was looking upon this site, i think it was a subject on breast growth… or something, but during this time i was reading an artical about voice. turns out it helped.
😉 also, for thee elders out there… i know the feeling. yet this body is nearly 30.
i am still taking the androgynous route, yet, femme body movements are taking their …action.
Capeditiea
Gnosis Goddess of Art and Creativity
p.s. this specific artical inspired a plot twist in Book Sex. 😉 it will put 50shades of grey to shame. so by then… 😀
how do we get a photo next to our name?
Hello,
I would say I’m coming to terms with my transgender/gay side and attempting to accept it. I am an army officer so I still hide but i do feel hope, and gratitude reading your articles. I look forward to a day that I can live as a woman freely, truly the person I am inside. Thank you 🙂
Christina 😛
Lucille!
Why can you not make a department specially designed for older transgenders. Please notice that nowadays the ones who are climbing out of the closet are over 50 years old. On contrary all your staff is more or less designed for 20-30 year old transgenders/crossdressers. Sad to say, because the older customers would apericate it very very much if you wrote and delivered your peaces for them or at least wrot how to behave as an older transgender7crossdresser. I miss it very much. F ex. how to make a apropiate make up for 60 years old women, dressing, shoes, lingerie and so on. Just now you are selling all to 18-30 year old girls. Think of the big customer part in the 30-70 year old category.
Have a nice day and think about it
Jullan
Yes, I agree, there a lot of older trans women that would like some info. Me, for one.
Thanks, Jamie
I am a transgender woman I want to be true woman I like to wear dresses, skirts legging, tights, leotards, high heel pumps, flip flops, night gowns, panty hose, thongs, panties, swimsuits, yes I want to be a woman./
Thank you Lucille for your advices, i post my first photo. What do you think ?
Paulina
wow Paulina u r looking great
As a cisgender woman I can just tell you that you look great, really stylish. This black skirt is the perfect choice for you. Your legs look so feminine with this pantyhose, and the shoes are beautiful… this outfit really suits you. You should be proud of the lady you are! You’re beautiful!
Thanks U for your lovely comments, so I publish my 2nd photo
Pauline
You look great!