If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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There’s a new scent out called boyfriend. I haven’t tested it yet, but would like to hear about it.
Lucille, You are very right about these tips. I have been in HRT (hormone therapy) for about 6 months now… I went F/T on Nov 11th, 2010.
There are a lot of times when I go out dressed ‘unisex’, but I am always wearing a bra and panties (actually have to wear the bra now – or strap down)
I wear my jewelry, and sometimes… I will just put on some clear mascara and eyebrow goo… Plenty of girls go out w no makeup, jeans and a t-shirt. You can be girly even if you have to wear ‘mens’ clothes. It’s ok!
I think you’re right Lucille. There are lots of womens
clothes that border on unisex apparel. I personally wear my fair share of bright colors like Pink, Fuchsia, Purples and other bright colors. Women’s jeans, polos, T’s, all figure right into the mix. Good work.
Hi, I live all the time as a woman since 1998, I´m 45 now, but I live in Argentina at the very south city of the country far away from my family and friends that´s the cost to be different, but I´m happy now. Thanks Lucille for your all advices.
actualy I do all of your advices, putting female perfume, female sockets, underwear.
while in the night, I wear female chirts and bantalones and long sockets and female shoes.
and hair dress like female, and of course still play wth my breasts to be more bigger and bigger .. I love to continue being a female, I hope to find my mate someday
Sofi, you must see this site:
http://www.transgenderzone.com/library/pr/fulltext/50.htm
Hope you find this helpful.
Hi Lucille: While I have been out and about over 50% of the time,including varied trips with my wife, I have learned, utilize and recommended many of the feminizing tips I’ve read here. Where as I formed a Trans support group over 15 years ago here in Southern Oregon and Northern California I have worked directly with hundreds of trans people, friends and families. Part of our support discussions have consistantly been what works for ourselves and for others to gain and strentghen that feminine feeling. Under-dressing and/or pushing the line on the use, while at home or out-and-about’ of feminine items of all kinds is an important part of our growth process to be the woman we xy females feel we truly are.
One thing I like to always remind my girls whether ‘practicing’ or out and about is to be proud of who you are. I use the term, borrowed from a dear trans mentor, HUTO, simply stated Head Up Tits Out”. It is amazing how mcuh further it will carry you in presenting to anyone of how you feel about youself.
Thanks Lucille for all your help to all of us. I have been a long time follower to many of your tips and programs. You are a dear friend to the Trans community and others.
Oh, today (Feb. 17th) is my 75th birthday but I feel much much younger when allowing and presenting my feminine side.
I dress femme full time. Spray perfume on sometimes same with make up. The only thing left for me to do is srs.
hi lucille
my name is tom
i always felt that is was born in the worng body since i was 12 year old and now at this year i were woman close jeans and under
tom
Hi Tom, It’s nice to see you here. Are you ok and finding your way?