If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
I came across a book on Coulette many years ago. She lived in France and in the 20’s she had a personality cult of young women who tried to follow this dictim…. “i will try to be a bit better each day in each and every way….”. Something still worth following today, and which i truly do follow.
My opinion is that there should be no need to be “sly” when it comes to women’s clothing. When I dress, I dress 100% and present myself 100% or I just don’t. Being sly only serves to trick yourself or fool others, and I would prefer to be true to myself, even if the price is only getting to dress one day a week, because for that one day I am being who I am and I am being true to myself…
Hi Lucille, I stay connected to my girly side by the power of my mind. I can imagine myself as a woman just by looking at women’s clothing and invision myself wearing that outfit or what I would change about it to fit my needs. Diana
While I’m not full time, I do live most of my day in a girly fashion, even at work I will pull my hair into a high pony tail, and when at home I wear more girly clothes. At work I am always wearing a sports bra and panties. So I get to feel girly and always wear scents. Anyways, i’ve been able to get to about an A cup and working on getting bigger, thanks.
i wear lingerie under my work clothes every day. and i always wear a feminine silver chain around my ankle. not only is it pretty, it makes me smile and its always with me
This is great advice! I’m only just getting to the coming out process, but I’ve been wearing women’s clothing nearly full time since early last year. It’s a tremendous boost to your self confidence knowing that the only thing hiding who you really are is (in my case) a baggy hoodie. Some plain women’s tennis shoes, some women’s jeans without swirly stitching on the butt pockets, and a nice but neutral colored top that people won’t even realize is feminine peeking out from under the jacket? Heaven!
Great advice Lucille! Keep it coming! =)
iam almost done with my change to female and now i enjoy my self in saree,pantees and bras.thanks for your valuable suggestions.
wow.. its so nice. i also love it….
me also wear female inners daily and i dont hv male inner and male jeans or pant i hv only ladies jeans n pant and i wear that in office too. but i m not getting support from my family and freinds.
hope u can understand
I am girly 24/7. It is hard not to be when you live as a woman 24/7. =D
Love your new photo, Janet! I know you are ALL girl, ALL the time. 🙂