If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
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I work in an office where I can wear and do wear feminine clothes. Most of the time people don’t notice,but my fellow co=workers have started addressing me as “madam”. Makes me feel good
verry good sugestions. i have pics on my phone of my self in Fem and ive been in Job Corps for 8 months this is my nineth month and my nickname here is Pinky i have a lot of friends and supporters and so i wear my fem cloathing mostly all the time the pants tite tshirts and i get girly a lot of the time and take pics and found a lot of confidence in it because ive been told i look totaly differant and that i am verry passible so i thank you a lot for coming up with this program
as an artist and self employed graphics consultant i don’t have to worry about impressions for a living. however i try not to shock people in my small town. about the only male clothing i have is my winter coat. i dress in jeans most of the time and they and all my clothing is bought from the fem side of the aisle. it is amazing what you can get away with! however my hair is getting longer and my face is getting softer now and so i find myself stuggling to stay away from shock value. sooner or later i will have to come out. but in the meantime i appear as neither male or female and get away with it to an extent. i find that women’s clothing is generally better made than men’s, more lightweight and more complimentary. it also defines better. this can be a distraction, but i have always loved the defined look and not the drab baggy thing. its been about two years i have been dressing like this and find it quite comfortable. this year i have my nails painted and so had to wear gloves. but that presents a problem with my itouch which requires a finger to actually contact with its surface. so i cut a little hole in the finger of a glove and it worked fine! the problem with my colorful nails is that my lil part of iowa would freak or i would get awkward glances because my face looks somewhat male and older. i plan on doing something about that next year in cuba when i go for a facelift. i found a company in canada that specializes in med tourism and sooooo. i also sail and so i will sail to cuba and have this done relatively cheaply. i would like breast implants but i want to see if the facelift will be enough to fem me out comfortably so i can transition whole. facial bone surgery is radical in my point of view and i don’t think i need it so much. it is amazing what herbals have done for me so far! anyway; yes i think sly is a very good idea in certain areas of the country. it would be nice to be in a city or a place where we were not thought of as so odd. but i understand and love people generally. i do not want to make them feel bad. not anymore anyway.
Sorry to hear that Faena. I’ve only been around the LA/Ventura county areas of Southern California as Shirley completely crossdressed and as Gordon most of the time with the nails, shoes, jewelry and some blouses showing. Also I have no idea what you looked like when you were harassed. I take it you also had one police officer in particular who was out to give you a hard time which stopped after you contacted the mayor. Such ill willed officers are the exception not the rule. In the early nineties I attended a T convention with about 200 attendees at the Holiday Inn in Burbank, CA. Just before it started the Rodney King riots broke out and over 100 law enforcement officers mostly Highway Patrol from all over the state and out of state checked into the same hotel at the same time to help put down the riots. The officers were well trained and well behaved paying no attention to the convention or any of it’s attendees but some of the attendees especially those in public for the first time were very nervous Nellies about the officers’ presence. I’d been around a few years so I knew better. I stepped onto an elavator with two CDs and we were all nicely dressed. At the last moment two Highway Patrol officers stepped in and the doors closed. Well you could’ve heard a pin drop as the elavator started to rise and as I looked across at the two CDs it seemed as if they were frozen but sweating bullets and their pancake makeup in danger of melting down. The officers got off first much to the relief of the ladies and we continued on to the lounge on the top floor at which point they really needed that drink.
Thought you might like the story. So I suppose your in the wrong town and it would be better if you moved somewhere else much more tolerant but I’m curious to know what you think shocked these people or provoked them into harassing you. There could hell to pay if I lived in your town because I’m the wicked witch of the West when it comes to harassment and wont be pushed around. I suppose that makes me an old battle axe but it’s a title I wear with pride like Virginia Prince did. So good luck with everything Faena. I hope things get much better for you soon.
thanks for the positive cudo Shirley, but i experience the pain of cross recognition regularly. i even had a policeman harange me on my walks for weeks until i had the mayor intervene. in my experience its better not to do as you have suggested in my little part of the world. i still have apprehension when i go for walks. you never know if you are going to meet a friend or someone throwing something from a car. and since the police are not on my side then i’m responsible for my own safety. so i hide my cross identity now as best i can unless i am totally alone or at a place with people i trust.
Hi Faena, Take the gloves off dear and show those pretty colors. The “shock” value you imagine is only in your head. They just don’t care thank goodness. I wore acrylic nails extending a quarter inch past the finger tips in the classic oval shape with bright colors any woman might wear including bright red all the time including to work as my homme self Gordon for more than seven years. No one out of that company of several hundred employees ever said one word or even gave me a funny look. In public I got an occasional compliment on the color. I wore closed toe black pumps with one inch heels that made the classic click of women’s shoes on hard floors. One day a Russian born coworker locked down at them and he said,”Those are women’s shoes.” and I said, “I know. They’re quite comfortable. I like them.” He shrugged his shoulders and that was the end of it. So how real are the nightmare scenarios and the terrible “shocks” you might give these people? How about you test it out by revealing a little at a time if that might be more comfortable for you. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised. Out of more than 3,000 people which includes the public and the employees of three different companies over a ten year period I only met four grinches and surprise, they were all women. They’re easy to spot and easy to deal with. I tell you what happened with the grinches and some other tips if you email me. Just concat my full name at aol.com. Good luck and wear those pretty colors girl. You deserve it. Your all grown up and have a right to it. I’m wearing a pretty metallic pink. How about you girlfriend?
Great suggestions mentioned in the your blog. Seems now they are already becoming apart of daily routine wear. Most of my wardrobe consists of female pants (jeans and corduroy) turtle/v/necks, jackets, vest, belts, as well as winter boots w/laces and one pair of shoes (no high heels yet). The naked sexy, beautiful, shapely woman picture on my computer inspires me to keep growing bigger breast and once an awhile I dab on some Channel. I may go to a hotel sometime soooon, get dressed up and then go out to see a movie . . . ahh! Sweet greetings, Lucille.
I normally wear girl clothes now except for my top and even though my family and co-workers know and support me. I am waiting for a little longer for some key things.
I love wearing feminine clothing under my regular clothes, Painted toenails, pantyhose, a bra
under my sweater, at work nobody knows. Periodically plain slacks & plain blouse when I go
shopping. Today knee high socks all day. I love that feminine feeling until I get to get fully
dressed and go out once every 2 weeks.
Enjoy all you can.
“Kristine”…You are one Sexy & Hot Girl…I too, love to wear My Pretty Matching Bras & Panties !!!
Is nice to know that there are other “sisters” dressing as I do. Just the same as a genetic female. I dress this way everyday unless going out shopping or to luch then just add a touch of makeup and enjoy my femme self. And no one really notices. But do dress up at times to go to some place special. Thanks for all your helping thoughts.
I can be totally Bobbie on the weekends and most evenings. I have to transition back to Bob mode to go to work. I work in an office and some days I will wear a Cammie that matches my panties. I’ll also wear dark aor even nude tights or stockings under my slacks. I have pierced ears and I will wear stud jewels in my ears. I have slowly shapped my eyebrows so I have a fem looking brow line.
I’m very lucky that I live with a wonderful lady that understands my feminine side better than I do and she actually encourages me to put on my finer clothes and to put on my face, even if it is for a few hours in the evening. I am so happy with her and we support each other just like a bra support each of the breasts.