If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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By the way I always remember to empty my pockets when I do laundry. I have a little wooden chest a dear friend bought me 5 years ago that I use for a mini jewelry box. I use women’s shower gel and shampoo now. I sleep with a feminine eye mask at bed times, I have a whistle with me in case I’m threatened.
By the way I remember to empty my trouser pockets and store my key ring in a little wooden chest a dear friend gave me for a present 5 years ago. I also have a few pictures of me looking slightly feminine from recent years.
I have a small lavender cologne stick i use sometimes. My keyring is an alphabetical L with fake crystals I keep in one of my jean’s pockets. Thanks I currently feel dysphoric in England right now due to an on going heatwave and water shortages so I can’t shave my beard right now, might stop if I’m honest for environmental reasons.
Hi im a CD from South Africa would love to meet like minded people
I have been dressing up most of my life. I finally have the space I need to do it more often. I definitely want to meet more girls like me to chat with. Kisses, Jackie
Is it new?
For 30 years, I have only worn, women’s jeans and women’s shirts or blouses. No one has a problem with what I wear in my family, I don’t flaunt it. The items have become the only clothes in my closet that I wear on a daily basis to work or play. Also shoes and underwear are ladies as well. You just have to carry yourself and have the power to control your emotions in your surroundings. Enjoy you day!
Im so sad and frustrated. I hate hiding that I am a transgender woman. It shouldn’t be such a big deal for me to be the way I want to. It shouldn’t be so much work. I’m starting to not care about how I dress. It was so tiring changing and I do that. I can’t come out more anywhere else till I am fully out at home. My wife knows and she hates it. We are not divorced because we have a child and I care about both of them deeply but it’s so frustrating. I identify female. I want to be myself. I actually feel more confident preeenting myself as female even dressing as female even if I look different I don’t care. I go outside the house and many places as female. I have a female name. I have friends who accept me as myself. Anyone that’s like this must feel something similar. It’s not a bad thing it’s good. I don’t want to hide it. I am so much better as a transgirl, and not being able to be so hurts me so much. What the f…!!! I just wish people could see. I tri d to tell my wife she. We were dating but I didn’t have the words. I used to try the clothing thing wearing female stuff in the house. It was when I consciously realized that I’m transgender that she got upset. We are not very sexual now that She knows I identify female less so. It’s such a bad situation. Neither of us is happy. She doesn’t want to talk to me about it. She wants me to leave her, but not really. We don’t have a physical relationship but this stated lo g before I came out as trans. I know a lot of you have issues like this.
Yes, I know the dissonance well. I ended up in the hospital. I can’t say for you, but as long as I fought it, it would not go away and time exasperated it. For me, HRT calmed the turbulence. You don’t really have meaningful relationships with others when you don’t have one with yourself.
You are just TOTALLY gorgeous and your last sentence is so true. Indeed it is only in the last two years, since i transitioned, that i have for the first time in my life a unitary sense of identity. After a masculinizing puberty i felt i couldn’t have intimate relationships with people, because i wasn’t being me. I sought the only intimate relationship i could truly have through my work as a scientist and that was with Nature, because my studies took me to worlds beyond humans, where gender has no meaning and beauty is independent of human relationships. Things got better when i met my wife 23 years ago and she seemed to love me for who i was and didn’t seem to see my gender so much, but i had to transition to overcome the pain completely. The best thing is our marriage survived (i didn’t expect it to, so one should never lose hope before it happens) and now i know i shall live to see my children grow up. Anyhow, here’s a photo of me without makeup or filters: it’s a bit rough but i like it because i see a strong likeness with a beloved Great Aunt called Amy (i took hers as my middle name) who, coincidentally, was the same age when i was born as i was when i finally transitioned (55).
Girl there are a couple of books that I’ve read that could possibly help. One is “Wrapped in Blue” and the other is for your wife called “True Selves”.
Great reads and also very informative.
Hi Lucille. Im now at the stage where all my underwear is lingerie. I go to work in it under my man cloths but as soon as I get home it’s off with him and on with her. My wife even now put cloths out for me while I’m in the shower, not always but sometimes.
We share most of her stuff to cut costs. It’s so relaxing.
Hellen
I wear panties every day also and my wife is just fine with it. She has bought them for me. She also is ok with bras and even fake boobs. I will wear teddys to bed paint my toenails and have some other women’s dresses and blouses I will wear. I enjoy being girlie.
You are very lucky