If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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My whole life only new I should have been my sister I would say to myself an just thought I was weird until recently I saw how happy I was an excited an got really turned on like when I was young putting earrings inbut would have to always sneak around an like wearing thongs and one time I was at my girlfriend house in the bathroom a little to long trying her Jean’s on Ani got cought I was called everything you can think of well now I have my own house an my boyfriend is my support
I feel very feminine.
I always try to do my best crossdressing when I get the chance.
Crossdressing brings so much happiness to my life.
feminizationsecrets.com is my very favorite site.
I get a lot of good and important advice here.
Many thanks and love to feminizationsecrets.com
I am “suddenly fem” whenever I get an e-mail from you or Valerie and hope to transition
In 2024. XOXO, Regina
Just came across your site via Pinterest and wish I’d seen it decades ago, or one like it. I am an 83 year old “closeted” M -F crossdresser with a partially knowing but non accepting nor supporting wife who hates the idea yet tolerates my everyday satin panty wearing and sleeping in satin nightgowns at night.
I have worn satin since my birth as Mom wanted a little girl for her 2nd & last child. She told everyone she was having a baby girl and all clothing shower gifts should be silky girl baby outfits. She received lots of them! ALL IN FINE 1940 VINTAGE SATIN! When I arrived everyone offered to exchange their gifts but she said no way was that going to happen. All my baby photos show me wearing those fine lacy satin outfits! When it was time for me to enter school my Dad told her to get me some little boy things to wear. She did this, but Dad never knew that she only bought pants and shirts! She still dressed me in girly satin panties, slips and camisoles under my boy outerwear. Socks and flats (girly) covered my feet. I never knew that boys and girls wore different underwear until I prepared to enter the USAF was introduced to those yucky male military issue Tee’s and Boxer’s.
About 8 or 9 I discovered my Mom’s satin lingerie and nightgowns and would wear them whenever I could. Usually for about 3 hours after school while Mom was at work. When she threw away a satin nightgown, lacy slip or other item I fancied I’d take and hide them in my room to wear. Sleeping in her lovely nightgowns was such a joy and felt better than the gowns she was still buying for me. One night as I was getting ready for bed I went to my hidden stash to get a gown. Much to my surprise I discovered my hidden collection was all gone and replaced by fine satins in my size, This included fabulous negligee / peignoir sets in fine satin and lace. I loved wearing my new satin lingerie to school and luxuriating in my new satin gowns. Nothing was ever said yet I felt Mom was doing this for me and I had no intention of messing that up. Sadly all this was given to Goodwill when I was preparing to leave for 4 years in the USAF!
My first year in the USAF I met a wonderful woman and married her a year later. We have 3 great children and 4 grandchildren and are approaching 62 years of marriage. I always thought we had a wonderful sex life and I loved buying her silky satin nightgowns and other femme items. She often commented how she loved having me shop with her as I had such great taste in women’s clothing.
Some time after our youngest son left home to “spread his wings” she returned from her annual OBGYN check-up and stated that she wanted to talk with me. I immediately asked if something was wrong and she said no I’m OK. It was then she lowered the BOOM on me by stating that she no longer wanted any physical contact with me” My attempts to find out why or what was going on have received no responses or explanations from her. 🙁 I still love her and we have fun together but I miss our closeness.)
Shortly after this event my employer asked if I’d be willing to take on a new job assignment. This would mean a lot of overnight travel for days or weeks at a time and my making presentations in front of our customers. My wife was OK with it, so I accepted. My first night away I was restless and could not sleep well as my mind was replaying the walk I’d taken through the connected Mall and discovering an elegant lingerie shop. The gorgeous satin items in its windows awoke the memories of my youth. My overactive mind was taking me to erotic sensations I’d long forgotten about. Once I decided I had to visit that shop after work on Monday I was able to get some sleep.
Monday’s work day quickly passed and I anxiously approached the lingerie shop after work. The interior was even more erotic looking than the windows! A lovely clerk, about my age, was taking care of 2 customers so I browsed around looking over all the fabulous satin offerings. I stopped at a table of plus size satin panties and loved feeling my way through them looking for some that might fit my huge gut and waist. Suddenly a soft intoxicatingly feminine voice spoke into my ear asking if she might help me. It was the clerk! I said yes I’d like to buy some of these for my wife but don’t know her size. She sometimes wears mine if that’s any help, we both are the same size. OK she said take yours off and I can get her size for you. I responded, do you mean right here in the middle of the shop! Yes, she said, the shop is closed and all the shades have been drawn so it’s just you and me until you are 100% satisfied with any purchases. I thought I was dreaming! There is one other matter we must deal with, these panties are for you and you are shopping for yourself, right? I blurted out a yes. Good, I’m glad we’ve gotten that all cleared up, now we can commence with your evening of trying on and buying your lingerie! Handing me a pair of fine satin pantes she told me to try them on for fit and feel. They were wonderful and felt very erotic against my skin. She asked if I’d like to keep them on while I shopped? I’d love to I replied. As they were on sale, buy 5 get 5 free, I selected 9 more.
This continued for 4 hours and I tried on quite a lot of items. When done I was very pleased with my purchases and her help. She shared with me that she did more business with men after hours, as she’d done with me, than with other shoppers during the day! (I definitely visited her shop a few more times that week and other weeks when I was in her area!)
I couldn’t get back to my room fast enough. For the remainder of my evening I slipped into my new royal blue satin bra with forms and my floor length royal blue satin and lace negligee / peignoir set (not sure which is which). Oh what a feeling that produced as the memories of my child hood came flooding back. For the rest of the week I slept soundly erotically wrapped in satin from head to toe!
Upon my arrival home I was called into our office for a meeting so left my unpacked suitcases on my bed. Returning home I was greeted by my wife who was extremely upset with and hostile towards me saying follow me! Our destination was our bedroom and I wanted to die when I saw my suitcases open and my femme purchases all over the bed. My wonderful explained that she thought she’d help me out by unpacking for me. When she saw all the femme items she couldn’t comprehend what she was seeing. Thus began the world war 3 of our very delicate marriage. I realized that all through our courtship and marriage, to date, I’d never shared with her my passion for wearing satin! When I shared that with her and apologised for that error on my part she emphatically yelled at me that if I’d told her we would never have been married. This was yet another dagger in my heart full of love for her. She always brings this up whenever we’re having harsh words with each other. Offers to sit and talk with her about it are ignored or refused, yet she’ll sit and watch TV specials or shows about CD’ing with me commenting about how difficult it seems to be for them.
I’ve been onto many internet sites on the CD’ing subject and have learned that it is what it is and cannot be reversed. We are born this way and nothing known to the medical profession can change it.
Truth be told I love my opportunities to be clad in satin and do not want GRS.
I wish we strongly feminine males could be accepted just like the strongly masculine females, who openly parade around in male attire, are these days.
Most of all it would be so great if some knowledgeable person could come up with a way to get hateful women, like my wife and zillions of others, to try and understand and hopefully accept a condition we’ve had since birth that cannot be changed. I don’t put her down for her masculine attire and feel it should be a 2 way understanding.
I apologize for this being so long and wordy but I’ve always believed more information is far better than to little. I look forward to reading your thoughts on this matter as it’s rarely mentioned on-line. I’ve tried to attach a photo of one of the gowns I love to luxuriate in when home alone or wife gone to bed. I tried sleeping in it but it’s 60 yard full sweeping skirt was way too much to deal with under the covers!
Just read your commentary, Berta : not one paragraph too long….! Feel only sorry about your wife’s lack of understanding — are you still with her as we speak….?
So very sweet that your mother dressed you in utterly girly silky underthings, and supplied you with your own lingerie, once she discarded her own that you had secretely collected…. from the doted-upon girlie to the roughhouse army barracks — quel’horreur !…
but you survived — I wish you all the feminine happiness : and this nightgown is indeed fit for a princess or even a queen !…. So gorgeous, silky and pristinely white (yes, much too special to sleep in — unless you have a royal cannapé bed….)
warmest,
Suzanne-Marie
I’m very fem acting and try my best look the part I love being girly teasing the guys well mostly. I’m very happy in my life right now
Tried it as fun for Halloween. Wife and I had great fun. Got addicted to it. Now my wife thinks its weird cause we are old and dont fool around much anymore. You are a lucky man!
Make me feel good
For years I was a secret C/D and only ever wore feminine underwear when I could,
then I met my partner I decided to tell her and to my surprise she was delighted to be told that I was C/D
and now she helps me with my dressing and she even helps me buy the right clothes that will suit me and she will even buy me clothes and bring them home for me, I used to think I was weird until I opened up to my beautiful partner ❤️
I’m d usually in satin knickers and stockings with bra and stockings. Very secretly. I started with my aunts silk directoire,bloomers when I was aboutb10.
How wonderful. My partner told me she would leave me if it was true that I was transgender.
So I denied it all. But I think she knows I might be anyway. She often tells me I’m a man. That I’m very feminine. I get the feeling she knows but are doing everything to stop me.
I love her so I’m trapped in this.
I hate my life so much.
So jealous of you. But also happy for you.
Amanda. ❤️
How wonderful. My partner told me she would leave me if it was true that I was transgender.
So I denied it all. But I think she knows I might be anyway. She often tells me I’m a man. That I’m very feminine. I get the feeling she knows but are doing everything to stop me.
I love her so I’m trapped in this.
I hate my life so much.
So jealous of you. But also happy for you.
Amanda. ❤️