If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, then you know what can impact clothes, hair, and makeup can have on your appearance.
But let’s not forget about the little details, like your hands!
While you can’t change the structure of your hands, the good news is that there are simple ways to help minimize their size and create a more feminine look.
In this blog post on how to get feminine hands, I share 4 dos and don’ts for feminizing your hands. Let’s dive in!
DO Invest In The Right Grooming Tools
Since we’re constantly using our hands, they’re a natural magnet for attention. That means that neatly groomed hands and nails are a must.
Good grooming doesn’t have to take much time – especially when you use the right tools. Here are a few items you should have in your arsenal:
- Nail brush – This is an essential tool for cleaning under the fingernails.
- Glass nail file – A glass nail file is gentler on the nails, so it’s a better option than an emery board or metal nail file.
- Nail buffer – Use a nail buffer to give your nails a natural shine without having to use polish.
- Hand cream – Hand creams are thicker than body lotions, so they offer extra hydration for hands and nails.
DON’T Make These Manicure Mistakes
Whether you go to a salon or do it yourself, getting a manicure is a great way to polish your feminine look.
That said, there are a couple mistakes you’ll want to avoid:
- Avoid nails that are too long or too short. Both of these extremes tend to make the fingers look larger and thus, more masculine. The most flattering nail length is about 1/8″-1/4″ past your fingertips.
- Avoid dark nail polish colors. If your hands aren’t your strong point, avoid dark colors and stick with neutral tones that blend into your hands. Flattering color choices are soft pink, nude, or ivory.
DON’T Forget Hairy Knuckles
This seems obvious, but it still needs to be stated: If you have hairy knuckles, don’t forget to shave them when presenting yourself as a woman.
No need for such a simple detail to run an otherwise impeccable feminine image!
DO Use Jewelry To Your Advantage
Rings and bracelets can definitely make your hands look prettier, but there are a couple important rules to follow:
- Avoid dainty jewelry. If you have larger hands, they can overpower delicate jewelry. Instead, look for chunkier jewelry styles that suit the proportions of your hands.
- Keep it low key. Flashy rings and bracelets call attention to an area you may want to downplay. That means one or two simple pieces is all you need. Instead, keep the focus on your face with a statement necklace or beautiful earrings.
In conclusion
Even if your hands aren’t your favorite feature, they don’t have to detract from a feminine look. Apply these tips and your hands will blend in beautifully.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts. How do you feel about your hands? Do you have any additional suggestions to add to this list? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. Hands are just one important detail of many. To evaluate your full feminine image, download my free Flawless Feminine Image Checklist below!
It’s interesting that whenever I disclose my transgender status to female nurses (yes, I have to do this regularly and necessarily) the first thing they do is to examine my hands and look at me with surprise. My hands are XY large, but delicate and feminine with long nail-beds and female 2D4D finger length ratio…
…I’ve had this intuitive sense that delicate jewelry and loud nail polish would look *wrong* on me, so I keep it all simple and clean with a single bracelet and clear nail polish. Oh, and my wedding band is very slender, half the width of a normal man’s band**, so my ring does not “out” me (only my relatives do).
**(Years before I transitioned, I asked a jeweler to use the gold in my band to make a new band for my wife (because hers was lost); the jeweler cut my band in half to make her new ring, and so my spouse and I share halves of my original wedding ring (and now we are two women, married together, in our 27th year).
(pre-transition)
These were my hands prior to transition (mehndi) and today (post-transition).
What a great article. For years that I’ve been helping transgender girls fit in that your point on nail polish is perfect.
Transgender girls are so easily influenced by comercials thinking that it will make them look more fem.
Nothing makes large hands or fingers more obvious than dark or sometimes black nail polish.
The same goes for mascara, you don’t need a mascara that will add inches to your eyelashes just use the recommended color and forget about the commercials.
Sorry I talk too much but I work hard with my new TG girls that it makes me happy when they fit in instead of being outed.
I’ve found that just a touch of mascara on my upper lashes and a smidgen of foundation over my upper lip is all I really desire for makeup. I often go without, and cis women say I don’t need makeup at all.
One new thing I have found that I like is Burt’s Bees aromatic spearmint lip balm. My lips darken and tingle when I wear this – it’s better than traditional lip gloss/stick for me. 🙂
I worked 30 yrs. Building Demolition (union) learned some things. 1 Moisturizer all the time even at work, face,arms,hands neck,legs.2 sunscreen,all the time. 3 Good work gloves when handling roughstuff and good work shoes,socks,proper work cloths for weather. Spend a little more Money on these things and if your pals at work kid you about putting moisturizer on at work often,tell them Ladies don’t like to have rough hands pawing all over there bodys. PS. Don’t have to say who’s body! I;m 76 and people say I look 50ish.
Ah-h-h, sadly, my nails are usually disastrous. Never seems to be enough time for everything, and nails get neglected. Women notice, too, but seldom say anything. In my case, sometimes one will take pity on me and advise better care. At least they are usually clean. One tip: If you have nails like mine, which due to various injuries, have developed uneven surfaces, lines, waves, etc. you can minimize the appearance of these defects by using more satin or matte-surface nail polishes (is that a contradiction?). Avoid shiny nails as that will show up every odd feature! Stay lovely, lassies!
Excellent tip, Joan! Thanks for sharing.
Congratulations I’m so happy for you. Is this why it hurt so much?
Article useful in many ways, I liked.
Thanks Lucille!
i have little size 6 feet and tiny hands
I work I. Construction and I use my hands in extreme manly ways. However I always want my hands to look femme as I can for I am in girl mode. I can always get this done. Do you have anyway I can keep a girly hands and still work on my construction sites?