I’ve observed that many crossdressers and transgender women recognize their gender identity at a young age. For some, it’s an early realization, while for others, it unfolds later in life.
I’m curious about your experience…
When did you first realize you were female or had a feminine side? Was this something you felt as a child, or did it develop over time?
I’d love to hear your story! Feel free share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hi to all,
I realized that I was different from boys at the age of 13. But in fact, I exhibited some girly behavior much earlier, in early childhood.
Kiss,
Beatriz
I remember being a little boy wondering when I would become a little girl. In High School and College I was so busy the trans thoughts were easy to suppress. In my twenties I tried really hard to become a man, and did many of the things trans-women do to become manly. In my case I joined the Army. Now in my 40’s I am dealing with them. I don’t know how many times I tried to throw this side of me in some dumpster hoping it would stay there with the clothing.
So to answer the question, I have know since I was young (early grade school), but I haven’t really done much about it until now (early 40s).
Hugs,
Jane Shannon
I have have been wearing ladies clothes since I was 8. I used to wear my cousins dresses, underwear and shoes as she was a similar age. I am now 52
Like so many of the other girls, I knew from a very early age. I suppose the first time that I can recall was around age 5 or 6. My father left us when I was that age and I thought that it was perhaps a bit my fault because I was not the Mach boy he wanted. Of course I’ve grown to learn that it of course had nothing to do with me. This left us girls, my mother and two sisters on our own. I now had to be the “man” of the house, whatever that means. So my dressing was mostly in secret. Of course I got busted repeatedly in either my mothers clothing or that of my older sister.
While young, my mother would have parties where a vendor would come to the house selling clothes to all the ladies. They would change right in front of me and it was not until I was older that I thought that to be odd. After all I was biologically a boy. For some reason they accepted me for me not even knowing how right they were. I remember how beautiful they all were and how lovely their garments (both lingerie and clothing) looked on them. I could picture myself being them and being a woman.
Oh, I’ve rambled far to much. After all this isn’t a counseling session. Lol
On hormones now, and on my way!
Christine
My story is probably a little different than most. In many ways I wish I could say it was when I was young, like when I experimented with dressing in my early teens, but I was too busy suppressing the feelings. I also was attracted to guys at the same time (yes I know they are separate feelings!), and I suppressed those feelings as well for many years. Only in my late 40’s did I finally begin to deal with both sets of feelings, which I have been doing now for a little over 4 years. Still in the closet to most but out to some close friends, getting therapy, and dressing as the real me as often as I can.
To be honest, as much as I could say it was when I began buying clothes or realized I wanted to be seen as a woman, when I came out to friends, when I started seeing my therapist for gender issues, I actually think the time I knew – knew with 100% certainty, was only 2 weeks ago.
You see up to that point, as much as I could see myself as a woman being intimate with a man, I could still at times see myself as a man with a man. Two weeks ago, I realized that this is no longer true – it was kind of the light bulb going off. I am a woman, period. Forget the body I am in, I am a woman!!! I don’t have to keep trying to figure out all the pieces individually because they now fit together. I know this may not last, but I am going to celebrate the fact that it all makes sense now.
So you see, although I have had feelings since I was young, and have been on my personal journey for more than 4 years, the real time that I finally put the issue to bed once and for all – was just two weeks ago. And it feels wonderful!!!
Hugs,
Elizabeth.
Elizabeth,
That’s wonderful!!! While I knew at an early age, like yourself I suppressed it on and off for most of my life. Failed relationship/ marriage after the next. My current wife ( a wonderful woman) knows and while she will not stay with me when my transition is complete, gives me some space and time to occasionally be myself.
Good luck to you through your journey of discovery.
I wish you all the best.
Christine
I started at 12-13 cross dressing games and that is when I know
Hi Ladies
I guess I was around 7 when i first realized i had a feminine side. I use to love to watch my mother put on her makeup, and when I was alone I would try ti put the makeup on the same way. It was when I was in 6th grade that I got to dress as a woman and go out in public. It was Halloween and I went as Granny Clampet. I got to dress and go to school for our Halloween party. I had on my moms Bra and panties under the dress I was wearing and even made a wig out of yarn. I thought I had died and gone to heaven!!! No one in school knew how turned on I was!
Hugs
Annie
From when I was 3 or 4 I have known but was put right into therapy tellin me there was something wrong with me now I accept who I am but bits of the “therapy sometimes make me feel like I’m doing something I should not”