Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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Yesterday was my “breakthrough” day. I went to Wal-Mart shopping for some jeans, found my size-womens 18short- asked for a key to the dressing room to try them on. The lady was nice and didn’t say a word.
I had a tank top to show my figure, bra size 42C, as my breasts are naturally developing and the jeans fit like a glove. I bought them, went to the bathroom to change and wore them out of the store. I was nervous as this was my first time shopping as a woman. I’m looking forward to transitioning even further and know my journey will be a success.
Lucille,
Like Janine, I will never forget the first day I went out in public as Barbara. I was so nervous and excited at the same time. I had been dressing as Barbara since a boy, but for her to actually go out in public was really way over the top. My mind raced with all the things that could go wrong, from having a flat tire to getting a ticket and showing an officer my male drivers license. I had read many of the great tips on “Femme Secrets” and decided to blend in. My dream for years was to be a passible female in public. My first day out was in Autumn, so I wore fashion skinny jeans, heels, sweaters, a scarf, big glamour sunglasses and carried a big Coach purse. My destination was an outlet mall several miles from my house. I parked my car in the lot and was afraid to open the door. Barbara got up her courage, got out and walked like a woman that owned the place. Her confidence grew with every click of her high-heels on the sidewalk. It was crowded, but people greeted her with pleasant smiles or seemed not to notice at all. It was a wonderful day of shopping that I will never forget. As I went from shop to shop, I would catch Barbara’s reflection in the shop windows. Exciting happiness is my best description. I encourage all you girls to dress with class and go out!
Have fun dressing
Barbara Jane
if I looked as pretty as you I would go out all the time thanks foe the story
On the 1st day when I was out as a female. I wore an A cup underwired bra, Loose Unisex T-shirt and a above knee length skirt. As I walk in the ladies restroom ignoring the janitor looking at me, lock the door and do my business.
Suddenly, there was a shout saying there was a guy in the ladies restroom. Damn, I ran out and leave the place as quick as possible. It is a fail cross dress. Maybe I am too tall and never apply makeup and my hair is boy cut. Problem is I don’t know how to apply make up.
I was discriminated against in the city of Rockford Illinois Emanuel Lutheran soup kitchen the volunteer group never been exposed to trans me and my wife were ran off by an old man we were humiliated my wife and I will be back again to do this to show we are here we are queer and we are not going anywhere I am a proud woman do not let prejudice people put you down you have rights and exercise those rights Illinois in Rockford is a homophobic city I will continue to be out in clothes society says it’s okay for a woman to wear clothes of a man yet God forbid a woman in a mans body wears women’s clothing just like my wife said normally she has to calm me down but I told her let them laugh and stare at us due to the fact they’re the jerks. I am a proud woman I will wear my skirt shirts in Public. Your approval need I not . Thanks I’m quoting yoda. Nerd girls rule!
Right its 22:00 in the evning and im aiting in thr park by myself looking at the world.
After ao many year of fantasy it has come true I have finley came out in some way of my true gender it is the beat felling in the world.
Just a few minutes ago someone didnt even know that Im male. Hope these never ends!!
I need someone to talk to about crossdressing. Can i have someones number to text?
Talk to me anytime.
3305817169 lets talk about crossdressing.
When I was 14 my mom caught me in my sister’s clothes. A few weeks later my mom caught me wearing my sister’s blouse. She never talked with me about this, but I believe my mom told my sister what I was doing. My sister was 20. My sister, Christine, asked me if I wanted a pair of jeans that she bought. I knew they were girl’s jeans, because the tag was a size 8. They fit perfect, so I said I would keep them. I would wear them all the time. On my next birthday, my mom and sister gave me clothes that were borderline female. They were girl’s blouses, tops, and more jeans. I would go out all the time wearing them without any problems. I have always been thin and wear my hair almost to my shoulders. My sister took me to the mall to go shopping. It was very natural to go out in public. It is also very nice to have family who supports how I feel. So yes, my first experience was wonderful, especially being with someone who made me feel so comfortable.
Thanks Christine!
Sylvia
how would you go to school?
My first time going out in public was a day I’ll never forget.
I was alone as usual in a motel room and I was dressed in a new green and white skirt that was about 3 inches above my knees together with a long sleeve white turtle neck top.
I had taken time to get my makeup just right and for the first time it was almost perfect.
I couldn’t believe how much that I looked like a girl who is dressed to go out shopping or dining.
I put on a pair of thigh high suntan hose and a pair of black 3 inch heels open toe with ankle straps.
My auburn color wig looked fabulous after brushing it and my clip on earings were dangling from my ears. I had a pearl necklace with a couple of gold bracelets on my right arm and a gold ladies watch on my left wrist
When I put on my lipstick and lip gloss and looked at myself in the mirror I knew that I looked as cute as can be.
That’s when I decided to go out and see what it’s like to be out in public places dressed up as a girl.
I dabbed a little perfume on my wrists and neck then taking my purse I checked to make sure that I had my ID and drivers license with some cash and a credit card.
I put my cell phone in my purse and on a whim I put a couple of tampons in my purse too.
I put the strap of my purse over my shoulder and locking at myself in the mirror I touched up my lipstick and after taking a deep breath I opened the door of the motel room and stepped out into the hallway
The hallway floor was tile and I could hear the click of my high heels on the floor as I was walking towards the door that led outside to the parking lot
I felt so confident as I walked to the end of the hallway and opened the door and stepped outside.
There was a slight breeze blowing when I stepped outside and I immediately felt the breeze blowing under my skirt and blowing my hair. .
As I was walking towards my car the feeling of the breeze blowing under my skirt and blowing my hair gave me a feeling of how feminine I was.
I didn’t care who sees me because I knew that I looked like a girl and walking towards my car with the breeze blowing my hair I felt like a girl.
When I got to my car I carefully took my time getting in the car just like I had observed countless girls wearing skirts do.it.
I opened the door and sat down on the seat then keeping my legs closed I brought my legs into the car together never opening them until I was completely in the car and had closed the door.
Looking down I was surprised to see how my skirt had raised up on my legs and I could see the top of my stockings.
I tried to adjust my skirt and pull it down but it was no use.
I quickly decided that no matter what I did my skirt was going to be high up on my legs until I could get out of the car and pull it down.
I put my seat belt on and the strap was touching my right breast when it was snapped in the seat belt fastioner.
Now I really felt feminine with my legs showing and the seat belt on my breast
Smiling to myself I started the car and started to drive to a shopping center near where I live.
As I was driving I thought about maybe being seen by someone who knows me but I really didn’t care if I did.
I knew that I looked like a girl and I knew that I could pass as one without any problem
I know that if I was seen by someone who knows me that they wouldn’t recognize me because I really looked like a woman.
When I got to the shopping center I parked my car away from the other cars so that I could walk to the entrance of the Target store and pass by the other stores so that I could see myself in the windows as I was walking.
Getting out of my car I put the strap of my purse over my shoulder and locked the car then walked towards the door of the Target store feeling the breeze blowing my hair and hearing the click of my high heels on the pavement
It made the walk to the store as enjoyable as anything I’d ever done. The sound of my heels on the parking lot was something that I hadn’t expected and it added a little spring to my step.
Once I got inside of the store I went to the ladies section and began to look at skirts and pants pretending to be looking for something special.
I was keeping one eye on the people around me but they weren’t paying any attention to me. After a few minutes I felt comfortable and at ease with being in the store.
I’d been in the store for awhile when I needed to go to the bathroom.
I knew that I couldn’t make it back to the motel so I looked and saw a sign that said Ladies room.
I walked to the door and saw a family restroom and thought good it was what I needed.
When I got to the door It was locked and the sign said occupied.
Now I didn’t have any choice except to use the ladies room
Oh my god I thought I’m actually going to go into a ladies room and I went in
I was surprised to see how many stalls there were
Two rows of them with about 7 or 8 in each row. I saw a girl leave one of them and I went into it and closed and locked the door.
I hung my purse on the hook on the back of the door and pulled up my skirt and pulled down my panties then squatted over the toilet.
I started to pee immediately and I tried to direct the stream into the middle of the bowl so it sounded like a female peeing
When I finished I wiped myself and pulled my panties up and pulled my skirt down then flushed the toilet and taking my purse I opened the door and stepped out of the stall and went to the sinks where I washed my hands then brushed my hair and touched up my makeup.
There were lots of women in there with me but no one payed any attention to me
I didn’t linger in there and left the ladies room and went back out to the parking lot where my car was parked.
I drove back to the motel and went in and when I got in my room I sat there and thought about what I’d done.
All in all I thought that it was a incredible venture and was very pleased with the way that I managed to go out and pass as a female.
I’ve been out many times since then but the thrill of the first time is something that I’ll never forget