Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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Greatly appreciate the sharing of experiences from our community. It is very encouraging!
While I have total confidence in my look from the neck down, I definitely haven’t had that confidence to go out fullon …cept for a few voyeur like episodes in the backyard or in remote locations. No real reactions from anyone.
But I recently needed groceries on a day when I was wearing a nice new set of jeggings, low sculpted purple T and a light grey coloured front zip hoodie. (Zipped to the mid section to show off my recent gains in my chest) I didn’t really feel like changing just to go grocery shopping. It was on a Friday afternoon and the store was busy. While I was both extremely excited and nervous, I was surprised that, other than a few looks, no one really commented or stared …so I came away with feeling great about my mini outing. Encouraged to possibly go a lil further sometime in the future.
Well when you first go out you have no clue what could happen try an appt. At a clothing store like Lane Bryant a styling session . With a stylist . Don’t know how far you would go to be feminine . Shave your legs can wear tights more opaque . Perfume . Wear to change if not leaving home dressed . Or dressing with regular clothes under your regular clothing . There are so many angles and what if you see someone you know . It takes a lot of courage to go out . But if it is snowing or raining no open toe shoes . Wear boots if it snows . Dress for weather , other questions are you wearing makeup or just lipstick don’t need alot just enough . There is many things to prepare as a woman . I know what time what day to go are they busy? Try to put aside the fear get some time put aside for yourself and try it . Fear is great but to overcome it is a wonderful feeling . Especially when you hear from another woman I have that skirt . Or you have nice legs . It is not a simple task and I wish all who try it give it your best . There are people who can help you and give you help . Ms. Riki you look great !
OMG, that first night in early 2007 when I went out alone, all dressed up, was so scary. I had met a bartender in the Atlantis (I was still drinking then) who was gay and I came out to him. He told me about a place, the 1099 Club, where there were gays and trannies. So I called a cab, walked out of my apartment – with my heart racing – and got in the cab. Turned out my bartender friend had called a lesbian cab driver he knew and she was SO wonderful, putting me at ease. So there I am, at 60 years old, finally walking into a public place as my life-long, but newly-created, persona: DINA. Oddly enough, and after quite a few gins-and-tonic, I spent most of the night dancing with this GG woman far my junior. A few men hit on me but sex was not on my mind that night; just reveling in public as Dina was.
Wow it was grate experience
We went to Casino on New Year night first time I dressed with nice and sexy dress with my long hair
I was very nervous but my friends who help me with makeup and hold my hand (all girls)
Went very well
My first time “out,” was with my X wife when I was 20. We went to a bar and I was approached and given a guy’s number!
XXXsOOOs
joann
My really first time out in public , and not in a remote village or at night i Mean, was about a year ago to a local gathering of transgenders in a city an hour drive with the car. I specifically choose that place , because on FB it looked enjoyable but also because I had to drive about an hour towards it so I. My mind it diminished the chance once there In the parking lot I drove back without going even out,. But I was so nervous , I nearly drove back. But I persisted and went out to the gathering . That moment I will never forget. It was so releasing in a way . And there was nobody to accompany me. Another real life test. But a night to remember
The first time I was out in public, I was actually going to see my therapist on transitioning. There was several people in her waiting room, all of which paid me no attention other than smiling or saying hello. When I finally got to her office, I was treated with the utmost respect. She had me do some little tests and later told me she suspected I was indeed a transgender woman. She asked if I had been out in public yet, I said no, but was thinking of going that night. She said I had nothing to worry about as I easily passed as a female and to go have fun. I went shopping at Kohls, JC Penny and Walmart that evening. I have since come out to my wife as transgender and been out many times since. It seems that the less that you worry about being out in public, the more confident you become and with confidence the less people will pay attention to you.
My first time in public (2000) was a disaster. I went to a shopping mall. On my way there, it rained cats and dogs so I had to walk through the parking lot in an inch of water in open-toed flats and my feet got drenched. After I went to numerous stores, I went in the ladies’ restroom. I went in and out without lingering, but I guess someone there got scared because not a minute after I walked out, security approached me and told me I was not allowed to enter the ladies’ room unless I had underwent “sex change surgery.” I was so frazzled that it took me years to work up my courage again. That has been the only time I have had someone respond negatively.