Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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Years ago, in the 1990s, I would go out regularly. I’m sure I looked like a man in a dress, because I had no video camera to see my self. I’ve learned looking in the mirror is much different from seeing yourself in a video. I would check into a hotel, spend hours shaving my body, selecting the right panties, bra, nylons, makeup, dress or skirt and blouse, high heels, and wig. I remember one time checking into a motel, and the girl at the front desk, was wearing a white blouse, short black skirt, panty hose, and heels, and thinking in a few hours I’m going to be dressed just like you. After getting ready and leaving my room, I went to the restaurant next door. I felt I was really looking like a woman, and as I started to enter the restaurant door, a gentleman behind me, stepped around in front of me and opened the door for me. I was ecstatic, feeling confirmed that I was passing as a woman. Thanking him in a whisper, I walked into the restaurant/bar, looked around as I was looking for someone, then left because I chickened out staying and talking to someone. I’m now 72 and feeling like I pass as a woman seems harder. Now I dress at home alone, when my wife travels. I look forward to the time I can spend in a dress a nylons, either with a garter, or panty hose, spending hours on my make up, selecting the right clothes, and relaxing on my computer. I hope the time comes when I can once again go out in public as a classy woman.
A friend of mine took me to Biloxi with me dressed up in a blue button blouse and a white pencil skirt. I was nervous but my friend with with me the entire time. Went to have lunch at the Hard Rock Cafe and to my surprise the staff treated me well. Enjoyed my lunch then we wnet to the casinos for a while. Played the slot machines. The staff was nice I got a lot of smiles and one comment on the outfit I was wearing. While my friend went to the rest room I notice a girl about 10 feet away kept smiling at me. When my friend returned she disspeared! Anyway enjoyed my time there and this was the first time I stayed dressed in one outfit the entire day. I did get over my nervousness.
I’ve always wanted to go out dressed as a woman but always put it off. Last week I finally did it. I set myself a plan of tasks. Park up and post letters, then to an atm and finally onto a beech carpark. I was such a thrilling experience not only to be out but to be seen by many men and women. Wish I had done it years ago
First time I went to mall and went to Victoria secret and another dress store. Tried on there bras a nigh gown and a few dresses
I went to Victoria Secret with a friend of mine while wearing something from my office attire(White button blouse and black pencil skirt). The staff there was very nice to me
I’ve only dressed up a couple times. One time I was forced to stay in a hotel over night die to a road closure. I had Already been driving dressed up with cute white stockings pink bra and panties with cute slip over dress like looked “school girl ish”. I went to front desk and checked in. The next day I headed to the mall and went to a few stores. It was wonderful going into bath and body works. The lady helped me and showed me various lotions. I got a lot of hateful looks from older mall walker ladies lol. I love dressing up so much. I wish could do it more.
My first time crossdressing in public was about 5 years ago. I started experimenting when I was a kid but I was never in public. But my first time ever out in public I wore a crochet spaghetti strap dress with just panties, no bra and I learned how to do my own makeup from videos and others. Nothing fancy for the first time out and boy was was i nervous! I went to the mall, grabbed a bite to eat at a restaurant and went grocery shopping. I spent about 4 hours outside dressed and I loved it. It was so overwhelming, freeing and i didn’t have a care in the world of what people thought when they looked at me. Now I dress as much as I can but unfortunately it’s equivalent to 4 days a month…for now.
My first time crossdressing or coming out of the closet, was about 25 years ago. It started with me looking at videos, and then I went to a couple of boutiques and malls to create a wardrobe. One day, two friends of mine who were dancers, helped me with my make up. I was wearing what the Artist formerly known as Prince, a little red corvette type outfit consisting of red platform stilettos, stocking, red mini-skirt, red/black jacket, and a black blouse, along with a blonde wig and red gloves. We went to a nightclub, paid a cover charge and went inside. I was a little nervous. Sad thing about it was, that no one hit on me. Interesting, but sad and depressed. Another time, later that evening. I was driving, dressed up in a pair of black patent stilettos, nude stocking, black mini-skirt, blue top, and blonde wig. As I was getting out of my car, a cab dispatcher saw me, then called the boutique manager, and said “Nice legs coming in”. As I started to walk toward the boutique, I stumbled a little, and a guy came by to help me. I don’t think he knew I was really a man. Another time, I was at home, and I was dressed up in green buttoned front dress, female undergarments, gloves and a brunette wig. There was a knock on my door, and it was my Father. I was a little shocked, but he laughed not expecting to see his son all dressed up. There were other times, but I never got back out of the closet. I updated my wardrobe, but have never used it. I guess I’m just a little scared about going back out again.
My first time don’t count. It was during covid and I was wearing a mask. I am very masculine with facial hair. It’s very obvious I am a male in a dress
Yesterday Feb 25 2023 was my first time.
I have been visiting Chicos in White House Tenn and looking at / trying on dresses. The sales associate was very helpful. She made me feel safe
They had a cute plaid skirt on clearance. I bought it.
I went back on the 24th. I took my skirt with me – hoping to change at the store and look for a top. I told Esther, the sales associate I had brought my skirt with me because, I wasn’t ready to wear it while in the parking lot. She understood
The store was busy and I chickened out. I did not change.
Yesterday, I put on my skirt, some shear black pantyhose, and a unisex hoodie.. I drove to Chicos.
When I parked, I took a deep breath and stepped out of the car and headed fir the store The walk across the parking lot seemed to go on forever.
When I walked into the store Esther gave me a big smile and thumbs up. She knew it was a big deal for me to walk across the parking lot
I spent the next half hour shopping with other customers present
I also bought a cute red sweater skirt that I’m plan7ning on wearing tomorrow
I so appreciate Esther’s attitude and understanding. She provide a safe environment for me to venture out in public.
Hello everyone. Some great stories and pictures here. I am 5’7″ and went out for the first time about two years ago (sadly not since)and I loved it. I had my makeup and everything properly done and went out to a normal bar. I was so nervous at first but I was surprised how quickly I started to relax. Hope to go out again soon.
Well, you look lovely.