When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hi. Right now I just classify myself as a crossdresser. I hope someday that I will be considered transgender. I so hate being a guy because girls have more fun and I want to have fun, too. I am not jealous or anything, I just want my “feminine” side to show full time
Hi Lucille
I consider myself as transgendered. I don’t like the term crossdresser as it have the sexual label to it. I am way past that stage.
I would consider under the trans label as being dual gender. I am male when i have to be and a woman when I want to be.
Lately I feel that I am looking and feeling more like a woman everyday.
I totally understand that. Twenty years ago, I thought that the term ‘crossdresser’ had nothing to do with sex, but just with the way one feels the need to manifest or express one’s inner female image. Boy, I was so wrong. 90% of all crossdressers are fetishists or just crossdress to find a sexual partner (mostly a male one). Yes, 90%. No, probably they won’t be posting here, so I’m pretty sure very few of the people who labeled themselves as crossdressers are fetishists, and there is a simple explanation: fetishist crossdressers very rarely have time to read and write about ‘crossdressing’ or ‘transgenderity’. They’re too busy looking for sexual pleasure. Seriously! I’m not a moralist, and I advocate for the right of anyone to have the sex life they wish in peace — but the simple truth is that a ‘sexually neutral’ term like ‘crossdressing’ suddenly was appropriated by a completely different group of people, who are in the overwhelming majority, but… they’re mostly silent online. The only reason they are online at all is to post their profile pics in search of partners, often on Facebook or similar dating sites.
So, yes, I think we need to get a new term to describe what ‘crossdresser’ used to mean back in the 1990s.
I think of myself as being both female and male, and the nearest label that would seem to fit is transgendered. While it is occasionally tempting to think of “the male me” and “the female me,” what I really feel is unified, 100% me, all the time and everywhere. There is a real sense of freedom in thinking of myself that way, much less constricting than the single label, transgendered.
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Thank you for what you do. Your blog has become a part of my life that i would not want to give up.
You ask about how do I label myself. I like Lucy call myself a woman.
For years I had to qualify as a woman. But then I found that i am what I am and that is all there is to it. As for labels? I let people I care about that I “prefer her, she” as simple as that. If they choose to respect my preference then all is well. If they choose not to, well than that is on them. They simply don’t have the capacity to understand and how will getting hurt or angry change the situation?
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It seems as if we will probably never get away from labeling. This is unfortunate because I am a woman only in a male body. I live a regular life and it’s my preference to prefer men to be my mates. I could care less what they want to call me. I still will be the same woman no matter what.
If I were to label myself I just use the term Trans. I do need to get more specific with anyone. I will only talk to people I trust and know.
… I would label myself …
…::: t-lady :::…
regret nothing
and don’t let
people bring
you down.
mareike … no secrets …
As you mention, transgender is a wiiiiiide spectrum FULL of variants. I should think that simply saying “trans” would be enough, as it does cover a lot of ground. However, if pressed for specificity I might default to the term: “Bigendered” person. It fits me pretty well.
Honestly though, as I am an individual, if someone wanted to refer to me for whatever reason, I’d hope it would be by name: Wednesday.
XOX