When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
hey, i don,t like to be labled, i mean who made then anyways. its just words. for my self i am just me its who i am, i check out some web sites and can,t tell the cd/tg/ and on and on from each other. i look at them and think mybe thats what i am, then i look somewere else and think no thats it thats who i am. so i just go on my marry way as me. david p.s thanks lucille
I would probably call myself a cross dresser. I have not undergone any gender changes, but still enjoy living as a girl. Honestly, I don’t feel that cross dressing is a bad thing, but I still have trouble dealing with the fact that I’ll eventually have to come out with my family. I guess I’m kind of a worry-wart that way.
On my female online accounts, I wear the cross dresser label with pride, but no one really knows my secret with my actual persona. So, I guess I’m prideful except not really.
At 61 this is a subject that I have long had to think about. I have longed to be a woman since I was 3 years old. Christine Jorgenson was my greatest hero. Then transsexual was the only descriptive word I knew. At 12 years I was secretly wearing womens clothing. When I got to college I could fully dress as a woman and pass well enough to be attractive to men. All the time I lived two roles as man and woman. When I got married; I wanted my mother to think I was a man since she knew in her head that I was not. My wife helped me to begin taking estrogen and I begin to slowly change. My breast began to develop. We went out sometimes as girl friends, sometimes as husband and wife. She told me if people see you as a woman they will accept you as a woman and she was right as I have never been challenged as a man dressed as a woman. I never considered myself as man or woman. My breast, for all intent, are fully developed; my body shape close enough to pass as a woman, especially when my weight is down. Like Pinocchio I have always wished to be a real woman but have never even had enough money to pay for my transition. I would love, if I had the money to achieve that final transition but I don’t think that will ever happen. What do I think; in my heart I am a woman, to those who see me I am a woman but in my mind I am the person that I am. I am neither an nor woman but I am all powerful. I know all of both worlds. I know the power of being a man; I know the joys of being a woman, to feel beautiful and feminine in a dress that clings to your body and feel a mans eye and the strength of his desire if he could have you. I know a woman can be as smart, smarter than a man and at times infinitely more powerful. I am intrigued and frightened of child birth but would give anything to feel life inside my body and the pain of birth, the joy of a child alive in my arms, nourishing from my body. I am me, Jennie, a child of earth, what we all see ourselves as being, a human being.
I don’t really know how to label myself. Somewhere between a crossdresser and a transgender woman. I do feel like a woman and if I was in my twenty’s there is no doubt I would live full time as a woman. I’m not sure I would have the surgery and become female but I would really consider it. In fact I’m pretty sure I would.
Unfortunately, it’s too late in life for me to start over and begin to live as a woman. As much as I have finally embraced my female self being able to live my life as her will remain an unattainable dream. So instead I dress up when I can and stay in touch with her as best I can. So does that just make me a crossdresser? Maybe I’m just confused.
Julie
I live full time as a woman and prefer to be referred to as a woman. In fact a resident where I live made a off-hand comment about a transvestite that was quickly addressed by management of the apartment complex. I respect how others feel about how they are referrered to, but as for me, being referred to as a woman is what I want, anything else would be insulting.
I am a transsexual woman. Unfortunately, due to many factors, some of which are unknown to me, I was raised as a boy and the female part of me was strongly repressed. It was only many years later, as an adult male that the female within me came out in full force. I now realize that the female within has tried to come out for many years and in many ways, but only recently has been successful. Although I have lived as a man for many years and even have children and grandchildren, I identify myself as a transsexual woman and am transitioning to become a woman full time.
Hi Lucille, this is a continuation of the comment I was trying to leave…I hope you don’t mind, Honey.
I mean lets’face it, we are women in every way with the exception of child birth.
Think if you will, being in a room where there is no light, and no one can see. If there were men in one corner of the room and women in the other, where would go, whom would you recongnize….the women. This is where we would feel the most comfortable and secure.
Please don’t think we have to look a certain way, all women go through that, that’s only natural. That’s how a woman thinks. Men don’t care. We have to have everything in place when we want to look just so poo poo, if you will.
And so I applaud Lucille for having this site, and helping us girls.
People try to streotype us only because they don’t understand us. When society cannot explain who we are, they put us in a box. I feel as a black woman it is a repeat of history, (and please excuse the languish, nigger pick up the stick…and they all reached for the stick) And so, Case in point, we are indivuals, stand up for your rights, be proud of your heritage and who we are. Stand firm and be strong as our predecessor’s are, bio woman at birth.
I have not to this day seen a woman born and have the instinct to know how to be a woman unless she was trained by another woman, how to act, carry herself, and so on. Don’t get a hangover, we all need to be trained. So embrace it. I’m with you, love Mya
I usually try to avoid using labels as being too general, but if I had to choose one for myself it would be crossdresser. You say that size is not a big holdback, but for me I feel it to be a barrier for being even close to passable in public. My hands, arm thickness, shoulders and even my head are oversized even for a man, and while yes I admit to be overwieght it’s my frame structure thats large. But I still enjoy the feel and the idea of dressing feminine.