Choosing the right words to describe your gender identity can feel tricky. For transgender and non-binary people, finding a label that fits is personal and important.
Using respectful language matters. Outdated or offensive terms can hurt, so it’s okay to set boundaries about how others address you.
At the same time, you are more than a label. What matters most is how you choose to define yourself, no matter where you are on the gender spectrum.
Do you have a label that feels right – like crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary, or something else?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hey Everyone !!!!!!! Wow! Let’s see now,I think that a label is really a very “unneeded” term…..I mean hell,don’t we have enough “hurdles” to get over without “everybody” trying to put “everybody”in a box??????
that is something we should all be very careful of, labels ca lead to all sorts of stuff..well said
That’s a true fact Lindsey.
I know the feeling Lucille,
And thank you for the great discussion, I had this similar conversation with a friend of mine many-a-times.
Boy, (or in this case, Girl) do I know the feeling. I get that a lot, and I am like, come on, we are different cheekas, but I understand, they forget to “educate” themselves, and are so quick to assume or “judge” so many Have talked to also say, so you’re a man in a dress, and ohh, wait you have small hands and are soft, hmm, another clique and bias thinking all drag queens or M-to-Fs all have deep voices and “man hands” and I am like, no I have always been a woman, and there are exception to all. Hence, me, I am born and Intersex, but I went through a transition of portraying a “man” or “masculine image” and then transitions to the “true female I should be.
I identify sometimes as not a gender “label” I hate to have labels, but I find that if we have to “define” me, everyone is different, but for me, I identify as a “FEMALE” but I am completely open about who I was choose to not “hide” my past, it is a part of me, so I have learned to embrace who I am, and I am FEMALE, and Embrace Interesex, HEAR ME ROAR, Rrrrr, LOL. ^_^ No but seriously, I also can identify as a Trans-woman, and Intersex-Lesbian. But I am only beginning an abridged version, I can elaborate in my book. But it truly breaks my heart when Society has issues and “expect” you as a peson in general as a “person to pick a side” and I stand in the middle and say, “human beings” do this and that. Not one gender or another that does more of one thing then the other, all humans have these means inside to do all the cliques of any gender variant, and if some show more toward one direction all power to them. But I agree and feel for your frustration and pain, I too am a “human being” and feel pain to, as any other human being. So true.
Much Love,
– The Jenna Fox
Closest to my thoughts that I have read so far…
So many people are choosing a label according to what they Portray…And in doing so reassign themselves to an alternative choice of Society Programmed definitions… Maybe we need the Polar Descriptions of Masculine and Feminine… Maybe we don’t… If it had to have a label then I am definitely Gender Fluid…
…leading me to other huge annoyance, that there is not enough clarity between Sex and Gender… My Sex will always be Male…Sex Should be mostly unseen in public…Gender more so, but is in the eye of the (mainly uneducated) beholder, and it can change according to due to age or health which may affect hormones and visible physical appearance…
Our only label that should be necessary is Our Name as we give it when asked!
Hi Lucille
I live by no Labels at all that like the song says “I am Woman” My transition began on April of 2003 in which I had my surgery in January of 2006. Yes during my transition I was treated very bad by men and women that mostly by men. What I feel now so very much is that you must be who you truly are in side of you. I do try to help my sisters in transition to become a total woman in which I do mention that labels can cause them to stand out and not be who they truly are in side of them.
Lucille I would love very much if one day soon that we could meet ,that I would enjoy very much to tell you on all of what I went thou during my transition.
Love
Robinanne
to add diversity or maybe debate or maybe even worse, i am 3rd gendered. some of both but neither.
peace,
mia
When I’m out and about I enjoy the “Mam” and “Miss” and “girl” I receive routinely. I’m not much for lables, however, I do want to always be up front while pre-op to protect the situation. If I had to chose, I would like Transwoman or Transgender. Post-op would be on a case by case situation on whether to “disclose or not to disclose”.
I prefer woman because I see myself as that and always have.I think these labels are for the ppl that can’t understand. So I say this I am proud to be who I am, and am willing to share my story with anyone so they can c me as who I am a stong and courageous woman .
Not all that fond of labels but if I must choose one I think I’ll just choose being a woman. Which is what I am I just was born with a couple of wrong parts.
I would prefer not to be labeled because everyone has something they want to change about themselves. Just like when a genetically born woman gets plastic surgery would not want to be labeled “fake” its something that they needed for them to be complete. This is what I need to be the true me.
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