When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
I refer to myself as a “transvestite,” “tranny,” or “crossdresser,” but prefer just to use my en femme name. This aspect of my life is hidden.
I will not be labeled, I am an always was a girl. I can’t help it if I was born with wrong body an had to have it changed to my proper gender.
Hi Lucille,
I have often considered how best to relate who I am to people. Sometimes labels are useful and at other times worse than useless. Let’s face it, labels are short-hand for invoking a stereo-type; a category. These typically give the hearer a mental understanding of a thing, situation or person without having to use 250 words or even more. Next comes the problem: is the definition = description universal? In our case, many times it is not. Do I dress in drag? Yes, when I am in my boy clothes….but I have been doing it so long that I am fairly comfortable with it. In many ways, my brain works like a womans and I love being related to in that manner by anyone. I was born with a penis. Though I wish I had not been, it functions and I have sex, even good sex occassionally, with my partner. Would I change the former, if I could? Only if I was absolutely sure that I would have that mutual, deep emotional attachment with someone; able to give and receive sexual release/pleasure so important to humans. Wanting to be pretty, desireable is a large part of my femininity, but the latter wanes as we age. So in the end, we are defined more by how we behave…open, honest, truthful, loving, kind, respectful of others and ourselves, thoughtful, understanding of anothers confusion about us, courage in the face of adversity, real, not phoney/fake. People despise trickery or deceit. I accept who/what I am, even if I can’t put a label on it. I am A Good Human Being regardless of how I dress or swish my hips or not. Low dose estrogen therapy has helped me cope with trying to live on both sides of the line. It is a compromise I choose to make rather than split from my soul mate and have SRS. It is laughable that one of the stereo-types we are saddled with is that of sexual deviants. If one takes estrogen for very long (only months) at a dose (for me) greater than 5mg/day, having any libido at all is a rarity; erections the same. So being a ‘sexual’ deviant is just not possible. Be Well, labeled or not. Tarie a non-op transsexual or m2f transgender human.
Hello Lucille. Thank you so much for being such a singular force in my discovery, but if I was to use a label, it would have to be CHICK. That stands for ‘Complete Human In Complete Knowledge’. I was born mostly male and I recognize and cherish those attributes, but there are many other attributes that I have come to recognize and with the support and love of my wife we have come to also cherish the feminine attributes. With your help we now recognize that male and female are not complete terms and should not be made to identify human beings any more than TG, CD, or any other labels. We are who we are and are comfortable in ourselves and I am just a chick you pass on the street without a glance or a concern, but I know and am happy.
Love you all! Keep up the good work all of you.
before my op i classed myself as a t-girl but now i call myself a girl or woman it is who i have always felt i am and even more so now
I have been living as a woman for over a decade so i will use no other label but WOMAN because that it what i always have felt i should have been born as.
Hi Lucille,
i don’t consider myself to be under any label cause if i do ,
It makes me fell i’m not woman enough.Now that my assets are begining to be noticed considerably,going under any label,no matter how close i am to it will spoil the feeling i’m begining to enjoy
I’m here born to be who I really am! And it takes a lot of time of living in the wrong way of living when you are not your real true self.
And I finally dare to accept who I really am! A woman born in a male coat, and although it doesn’t matter anymore in this time, to me it was actually enlightening. Just now I never hide my real self anylonger. Because I have finally accepted who I really am.
You can call me a born male, a transsexual, a t-woman and so on, but I am the only one who knows who I am!
And being my real true self, I’m most able to conquer even this world with all their stupidities.