When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hi Lucille, This question comes up often. I answer it this way, I’m a human being or a person as is everyone else. I don’t use labels as I find it degrading for everyone! Diana
You know there are so many different labels, stereotypes and others that it does get very confusing, even for those of us living it. I have taken probably ever gender test known to man and I have always hit the exact middle. This puts me in an even more obsure catagory, transgenderist. Right in the middle of the gender scale.
I find it in poor taste when some people like to label others that dont fit their thinking.Those of us that have a different life style should be accepted and allowed to become the type of person we want without ridicule. I consider myself as a crossdresser and plan to become fully female one day
Greetings Human Family,
I am currently a transwoman, “trans” means passing through the motions of unraveling the male energy out of my body so I can reflect my “gender Imprint”. There is a lot more understanding about this imprint and it has nothing to do with sexual orientation. The thinking that we have genitalia and gender conditioning but our spirit is beyond gender is missing the most important link, this imprint. We can change our genitalia, orientation can vary through out life, but this “gender imprint” is constant and can not be changed, only forced to hide. So much of the earlier thinking was based on sexual arousal and fetish, but this gender identity is very spiritual and key to the essence of who we are. I have come to understand that I am a woman regardless of genitalia or conditioning, and now everything makes sense. I have no choice but to connect body and soul. Once the unraveling process is complete the “trans” is over. The most important thing for everyone is understanding what an inclusive society looks like, and that does not include the spirit of intolarance. Everyone just needs to express themselves freely and come to an understanding with yourself. I understand that I am a woman and that I am attracted to both women and men. During this time of trans it would be easy to have some romantic fun with a gay man, but his attraction towards me would be that towards an imfeminate man not a woman and would not be good for my spiritual well being, especially when finally breaking free of dysphoria. It’s very healthy to be able to sort this out, just dont put yourself in a box. Be here now. Be yourself. Be love.
ciao
Jayme
I agree my gender imprint is female and always has been, my appearance has nothing to do will sexual orientation and I don’t use female clothes for my own or anyone elses sexual stimulation- it gives me a sense of completeness and I feel that this is who I am.
I just consider myself a woman.
Great topic of discussion, Lucille! Wow. That is a GOOD question for me, because I honestly don’t know. The best answer I can give people is that I’m “transgendered”, which is an “all-encompassing” term which doesn’t really help you! I don’t honestly expect “others” or non-trans people to totally grasp it in the first place, either, simply because I myself do not know at this stage. So for that reason I cut some slack for people because they are very likely unfamiliar with “labels” due to their own experiences (or lack thereof), lifestyle, or upbringing. That actually doesn’t make those people’s “label” wrong because if WE as a trans-community don’t understand it, how do we make anyone else understand it??? People put labels on things they don’t understand, and, unfortunately, being transgendered is definitely misunderstood!
I am passable enough in public, that I decided if I ever get asked about my presentation, I am simply going to say that I’m a transsexual and that I’m in transition, and I feel that should satisfy most people. But I’ve never been asked that, so I’m also wondering if it’s really that big of a deal. People at times seem to be more tolerant. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems that way. I guess I don’t worry about it too much and just go about “my business”, because if I’m out presenting myself as a woman, then that’s how expect to be treated!
Thank you,
Jeanette
Transgender, transsexual, transvestite, transmission…It’s just a label so I’ll make this easy. I still dig women so I’m a LESBIAN. Can a TG be a lesbian?
Robyn
Lucille
I have always called people like us – FtoM, MtoF Gender Diverse. This may not please everyone but it fits well with my current research finding. Some call us and themselves Gender Variant – but that is not universally pleasing. We are all GDs = and there are probably as many kinds of GDs as there are GDs! Your examples are stereotyping – and not only are we not Drag Queens (who are more often ‘gay’, whatever that means, than GDs – no problem there) because GDs live all or part of their lives as the ‘other’ gender and not only on stage or in bars.
I will, as always, follow your emails and continue to learn from you and others. I may even become a customer one day because you seem to know what you and the people you work with are doing! Thank you.
Jenny