What do you think of when you hear the word “ladylike?” Beauty, poise, and class? Or perhaps, outdated notions of femininity?
To me, being ladylike means being classy, gracious, and elegant. No matter what your idea of femininity might be, I’m sure we can agree that these are great traits to have.
If you’re a crossdresser or a transgender woman who wants to be perceived as a lady, there are a few things you should steer clear of.
Read on to discover 5 common mistakes that can detract from your ladylike image.
Mistake #1: Showing Too Much Skin
Being ladylike definitely doesn’t mean being a buttoned-up prude. However, good taste goes a long way when presenting yourself as a woman.
It can be tricky to know how much is too much, so here are some simple guidelines to keep in mind:
- Show off one part of your body and keep the rest covered. A little mystery is sexy, so show off your legs, breasts, or back – just not all at once.
- Flaunt the right amount of cleavage. A good rule of thumb is to reveal 20%-40% of your bust. This gives you sex appeal, while keeping it classy.
- Try the finger length test. To determine the proper skirt length, stand up straight and put your arms to your side. If your fingertips fall past the hem of your skirt, it’s too short.
Mistake #2: Not Minding Your Manners
Good manners and etiquette are dying arts in today’s world. Saying “please” and “thank you” are simple ways to elevate your ladylike status.
The rules of etiquette can be a bit more confusing. To learn more, check out my blog post on 6 modern etiquette tips for your male to female transformation.
Mistake #3: Being Sloppy With Your Grooming
Grooming can make or break your feminine image. In fact, studies show that grooming has more of an impact on your attractiveness than the physical features you were born with.
Are your grooming habits up to par? If this area needs work, be sure to see my article on 5 feminine grooming habits not to ignore.
Mistake #4: Losing Control
One of the most important qualities of a lady (and of any respectable human being) is self control – especially when you’re out in public.
In other words, no diva acts, angry outbursts, or public displays of drunkenness. It seems obvious, but if celebrity tabloids are any indication, it’s not.
Mistake #5: Poor Posture Or Body Language
Finally, don’t forget that your posture and body language communicate more about you than anything you say. Here are some major no-nos:
- Slouching
- Biting your nails or playing with your hair
- Not making eye contact
- Crossing your arms
For an even more comprehensive list, review these 27 male to female body language mistakes to avoid.
Do you aspire to be ladylike?
So what do you think of the term “ladylike,” anyway? Do you find it outdated and offensive towards women? Or a feminine quality worth aspiring to?
As always, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked these tips, you’ll love my FREE 3-part Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
A great thing to keep in mind when feeling so pretty all 5 are good advice thanks
And don’t forget to stick your pinkie out while you drink a cup of tea.
When I entertain at home (I don´t go out much) I´m very observant regarding my language and posture.
Fortunately it comes easy as I love my sparse woman time.
Another terrific blog and things to keep in mind.
beautiful pic girlfriend! 🙂
Thank you so much, Kelli!
As always, Lucille, you are spot-on with your thoughts on being ladylike! I consider myself a confident, strong trans woman. For me, attitude is everything—classy, elegant, feminine, glamorous, happy, intelligent, educated, well-read, compassionate and sensitive to others. When I feel these attributes on the inside, it becomes more natural to express myself with greater ease and confidence, and to inspire all women to do the same! So, ladies, find the beauty within, and be dazzling! You deserve it!
Much love
Lady Maxine the Dream Queen.
Lennora…
Thanks so much for your kind Words…At 75 in October, this old body has been thru the Ringer a few times. That use of the word, ” ringer” tells you how old I am . Used to watch Mom use the old Ringer Washing Machine in the basement….the 50’s , early 60’s…a lot of work compared to today…& speaking of which, here are some very late photos…
Dr.T.J.
Only as old as you feel you cute red head hugs T.J. from
Stephanie Bass
Yep, just put one high heel in front of the other…love doing that!
I look for any excuse to get Dolled up.
The younger set of up and comers need to see us older girls, who were out in the ’60’s , risking jail being out and about. Today, we are freer than ever, to do what we please.
Later, Love…Dr. T.J.
Such a lovely ensemble, posed so well. Quite the nice look, Doc!
From another Old Doll (74)
Lauren
Thank you for your lovely comments, so appreciated.
Yes we ” Mature” girls have to stick together!
You look much much younger than me…it does get harder ever year to get dolled up.
Is that your real hair? Beautiful!
Love to chat, later Love…
Dr.T.J.
You would’nt have to be Ticklish? You have nice looking skin!
I don’t know if I have “ladylike” behaviors. I try not to think about it.