What do you think of when you hear the word “ladylike?” Beauty, poise, and class? Or perhaps, outdated notions of femininity?
To me, being ladylike means being classy, gracious, and elegant. No matter what your idea of femininity might be, I’m sure we can agree that these are great traits to have.
If you’re a crossdresser or a transgender woman who wants to be perceived as a lady, there are a few things you should steer clear of.
Read on to discover 5 common mistakes that can detract from your ladylike image.
Mistake #1: Showing Too Much Skin
Being ladylike definitely doesn’t mean being a buttoned-up prude. However, good taste goes a long way when presenting yourself as a woman.
It can be tricky to know how much is too much, so here are some simple guidelines to keep in mind:
- Show off one part of your body and keep the rest covered. A little mystery is sexy, so show off your legs, breasts, or back – just not all at once.
- Flaunt the right amount of cleavage. A good rule of thumb is to reveal 20%-40% of your bust. This gives you sex appeal, while keeping it classy.
- Try the finger length test. To determine the proper skirt length, stand up straight and put your arms to your side. If your fingertips fall past the hem of your skirt, it’s too short.
Mistake #2: Not Minding Your Manners
Good manners and etiquette are dying arts in today’s world. Saying “please” and “thank you” are simple ways to elevate your ladylike status.
The rules of etiquette can be a bit more confusing. To learn more, check out my blog post on 6 modern etiquette tips for your male to female transformation.
Mistake #3: Being Sloppy With Your Grooming
Grooming can make or break your feminine image. In fact, studies show that grooming has more of an impact on your attractiveness than the physical features you were born with.
Are your grooming habits up to par? If this area needs work, be sure to see my article on 5 feminine grooming habits not to ignore.
Mistake #4: Losing Control
One of the most important qualities of a lady (and of any respectable human being) is self control – especially when you’re out in public.
In other words, no diva acts, angry outbursts, or public displays of drunkenness. It seems obvious, but if celebrity tabloids are any indication, it’s not.
Mistake #5: Poor Posture Or Body Language
Finally, don’t forget that your posture and body language communicate more about you than anything you say. Here are some major no-nos:
- Slouching
- Biting your nails or playing with your hair
- Not making eye contact
- Crossing your arms
For an even more comprehensive list, review these 27 male to female body language mistakes to avoid.
Do you aspire to be ladylike?
So what do you think of the term “ladylike,” anyway? Do you find it outdated and offensive towards women? Or a feminine quality worth aspiring to?
As always, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked these tips, you’ll love my FREE 3-part Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
Laydylike is a term I really like.Part of the reason I dress Ladylke is because I was around very pretty women early in life.If you don’t dress feminine and walk fem.and all the other fun things to learn,you are missing out.LOL Kimberly
I doooo soooo Love all the wonderful feminine gifts You have given me and all the rest of the girlie grls who follow along with Your femmy wisdom Thank U sooo Much Lucille Ur the Best. stephaniecurl
Awe, thank you so much Stephanie! I adore our community of girlie girls here. ❤️
A lot of these qualities lean toward visual appearance and behavior. Initial cues are important but so are someone who seems well versed in various subjects but not someone who pushes that forcefully on to others. Just be someone who listens and communicates with some knowledge and be agreeable to the extent possible ( unless someone’s ideas are way out in left field and inaccurate – then can express disagreement in a non confrontational way waiting for response in a respectful way ).
Body language can be subjective. Especially if you have Autism, even know it can be learned sometimes it can be difficult at times. Especially eye contact with someone. It can be different for everyone. But thing like stemming etc. When needed makes it more difficult. But when done gracefully can help. With having Autism being lady like is different for every individual with how we are on the spectrum. Even as a trans women with Autism learning these things that aren’t taught as your growing up can be mastered to a point.
me encanta ser una dama y asi ganar mas respeto ser elegante linda sensual
I often do play with my wig, but that’s to keep it off my face, it’s so annoying when a strand of my wig catches my lipstick or doesn’t stay where it should. I also think that too much makeup makes someone look less ladylike than anything, a mistake I’ve made a time or two, when I was trying to learn to do it properly. And one other time, I was getting ready for a party and I was in a hurry, and I overdid my eyeshadow, but not my lip stain, that’s easy-to-use, I can do that in a minute.
Every woman is in one of four condition of female nature: A Girl,A Lover, A Mistress, The Queen. If I have to draw myself as geometric figure or symbol I will draw a wave. I am a wave, soft and tender, but I can transfer to tsunami so beware my love as Paul McCartney has song. And a wave means A Girl female condition.