Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
To learn more about choosing the right panties, check out my post on How to Choose the Perfect Panty (Transgender / Crossdressing Panties Style Guide).
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille. As usual you have written an article tht it so important for us girls to be feminine. Over the years I have collected a vast range of lingerie. I agree with you that it is always good to wear matching bra and panties also ensuring that they “match” the colour of your pantihose. I have camis, short and long and slips, mostly in satin. I just love the feminine womanly feeling being dressed underneath as such. Now that my breasts are becoming more enlarged it is so good to see my bras filling out even more. Thank goodness for the internet to be able to buy things.
Thanks for all your articles to help us progress in our femininity to be what we want to become..
Lots good wishes
Georgina
I own 20+ bras to fit any style I am gong for, as well as 2 drawers of panties, a drawer of stockings, one of pantyhose and tights. I feel good about myself inside and out, although it may be almost time to start buying a larger size of bras. Thank you, as always… 🙂
Hi Love Lucille
Thank you for your tips always. All are good. I like very much. I am Transgender woman. Long time i start to use bra and panties. I got good feeling and confortable. Thank you for your support to become a woman
I since 40 yrs. attracted to bras.But was worned the first time in 1997.I like it strange,good feelings & fear also. But after six or seven months friquently worn it when got chance .
I always have. Good selection of underwear, but often find foundation wear and or a corset a must
You hide the lumps and bumps so a good body shaper has to be in very girls wardrobe
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I have a good variety of lingerie, well, maybe not a whole lot of the super-sexy kind. So I was ready for an event with the theme: Madonna. I just wore underwear, as she was prone to do. It was fun. There’s more to the story, but that’s for another time…
Lots to consider when buying bra – style, colors, fit, snugness, etc. Purchasing online is more discrete but carries some risk that way – better to try on in a store before purchasing I would say ( also, does bra size always fit the same from one vendor to the next – like shoes sizes? )
You are right
Bra size numbers and actual sizes vary all over the map. The numbers are just a starting point. It’s really sorcery; you just need to know the right spells…
Having dressed full time in women’s undergarments for some time now, I have found they last a lot longer if you have plenty of undergarments. I currently have 7 bras and 14 panties, so I wash them every other week. I have charge accounts with four different women’s retailers and buy every six months when they have their semi-annual lingerie sale. Currently Roamans has a semi-annual lingerie sale up to 60% so I am going to be shopping this weekend! Thanks to Lucille’s Flat to Fem program, I am between a B and C cup now (see photo). I love it!