Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
To learn more about choosing the right panties, check out my post on How to Choose the Perfect Panty (Transgender / Crossdressing Panties Style Guide).
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
I discussed our special needs with bra expert Elisabeth Dale a while back: http://www.thebreastlife.com/blog/bra-fitting-tips-for-crossdressers/
The most important thing I can say is try on lengire while you are shopping. Don’t buy it online. I always go shopping enfemme and never have a problem. I really enjoy going to Victoria Secrets to try on their stuff. Staff is always very accommodating.
The most important thing I can say is try on lengire while you are shopping. Don’t buy it online. I always go shopping enfemme and never have a problem. I really enjoy going to Victoria Secrets to try on their stuff. Staff is always very accommodating.
I Love wearing panties and bra’s. I have over 100 bra’s and who knows how many panties. Most of my bra’s I have the matching panties to go along with them. I went through a phase where I want nothing but Victoria Secrets. I have since learned better quality bra’s last so much longer and wear better. I buy nothing but Wacoal, Chantelle, Fantasie and Prima Donna bra’s. They are more expensive then most bra’s. But it has been well worth it then buying cheap bra’s.
All of my panties are nylon or silk. I do not own any cotton panties. I just love the feel of the material against my skin better then the cotton.
Thank you Lucille. (((HUGS))) to you.
Dorothy
Dear Lucille
I have a formal white frill-trimmed bra and a sports bra. Also I own g-strings, thongs, and high-cut panties. But your advice is so “on-the-mark” about adding to my bra collection and concerning myself with co-ordinating my look. I do not even own a sleep bra; however, I am going to invest in one along with a sensuous teddy.
Love Richard
I love lingerie so much. just call me crazy I have well over 200 Victoria secret bra and maybe 100 other name brands so many panties I cant count a complete wardrobe of clothes just for lisa have never worn out a bra yet, but that may have been due to many binges
I would add…
Experiment and keep a variety of colors that enhance and flatter your natural beauty. I see so many girls who are much too reliant on black lingerie. I must admit I too am guilty of this crime. Black is always my Go-To color. So much easier to coordinate (I Love my black nylons & garters) but I think we (by we I mean I) should be putting more effort into being as attractive as we can be for the one who gets to see us in and gets us out of our (my) lingerie.
~Robyn
Thank you for sharing these tips Lucille…I have 16 bras in my collection, and I just love bras…I’ve always thought they are the most feminine of garments, with panties running a close second!
As you’ve said, our lingerie is against our body, and nothing feels sexier that a properly fitted panty and bra!
The only thing I would add is a reminder that lingerie is much more delicate than our previous male undies, and requires gentler care, but I’m sure you’ve covered that in other posts.
Thanks again,
Jamie