Wow, my previous blog post about GUILT struck a nerve with people.
If you feel guilty about crossdressing or being transgender, then maybe you consider the whole thing a “curse”.
But I believe there are some amazing benefits to being a “two-spirit” person.
In this post, I want to share what I believe are the hidden benefits of crossdressing or being transgender.
Some of these apply more to crossdressers, but the sentiment is the same: Being TG can make you a better person overall – in girl mode AND guy mode.
The Top 10 Hidden Benefits of Crossdressing or Being a Transgender Woman
1. It allows you to integrate the best of both genders into your personality.
2. It motivates you to stay in shape and take care of yourself. (A girl’s gotta look good, right?)
3. It makes you more empathetic towards women.
4. It brings you closer to the people who support you.
5. It’s easier to be faithful when *you* are the other woman (though I hope your empathy towards women would prevent you from cheating in the first place!).
6. It allows you to get to know yourself in a deep and meaningful way.
7. It makes you an interesting person. (Normal is boring!)
8. It gives you more compassion towards others who don’t fit the norms of society.
9. It offers a healthy and non-destructive way to relieve stress.
10. It makes you a more creative, resourceful, and courageous person than you might be otherwise.
So what do you think? Am I missing anything on this list?
I’d love to hear what YOU feel are the hidden benefits of crossdressing or being a TG woman.
Please leave me a comment below!
Love,
Lucille
transformation tips?
the clothing softness and slickness and shininess is my starting points but i alway had an inner girl inside …
First of all, to those of you that are living a happy life especially those that are married to an accepting wife and or family, I envy you but at the same time happy for you. It is 2022 and net month May 8, I will be 77. At age 11 I had a feeling I was different, I felt I had a female living in my body but I ignored it. Short story of my life. At 17 enlisted in the military, 19 married, we had 4 kids, married 22 1/2 years, I had to retire from the military due to divorce at age 41. That was when I began to research my inner female feelings. After much research, I realized I was happy to be a cross dresser and nothing more. Met a lady, married, 2 weeks later told her about dressing and she accepted it and even joyed in. Ten years later, I had E.D. and she thought it was because of my dressing and acting as a female more often. I threw away ALL of my female clothing and pictures I had of “Vickie”. that was 25 years ago and Vickie is still inside wanting out. My wife has alzheimers and life has been turned upside down. Her daughter has known about Vickie all along and use to support me but now I think she just tolerates my talking of dressing when I have depressing times from not dressing. I feel so alone and at times wonder why I’m still here, I have no one I can talk with and share my feelings and have Vickie in my life.
pendant longtemps quand j’était dans la grande ville que j’habitait je sortait le soir ,et puis j’ai rencontrer une femme que j’ai épouser, on a eu un enfant les année passent et elle demanda le divorce. puis le confinement est arrivé et la j’ai recommencer a m’habiller en femme et suis sortit sur le balcon étendre le linge et la le tabou de qu’en dira ton est tomber il c’est briser et je me suis sentie bien , aujourd’hui je m’habille quand je rentre du travail en sous vêtements féminin et même le weekend , quand je vais faire les courses avec des dessous je me sent femme .et voila bisou lysa .
i really love this site it has helped me to come out i have found myself and it feals so good to be who i am on the inside
I been feeling dressing as a man starting to become uncomfortable for me have been feeling that way for a long time I have good friends that are transgender supporting me I guess yes I am transgender and I’m proud of it
I hate being male and look forward to my transition ! I also hate male clothes ! Women’s clothes are just heaven !
I’m in agreement with Sharley. Being gender dysphoric has been difficult. I was abused by my own family, bullied and friendless. Till this day, I am viewed as a disappointment in my family. Feminine attributes weren’t allowing me or giving me, bringing me or offering me “benefits”. These were the thoughts, feelings and actions that I had to suppress everyday. I became very reclusive. I was convinced that something was wrong with me. I am fortunate that my wife has enough love for me in her heart to stay with me when it came to the point where I could no longer function, living under the stress of fear, anxiety, and depression. For many years, I just wanted those feelings and desires to stop. I finally (after 60 years) have found peace. I don’t consider being transgender a curse. Maybe the curse is ignorance and discrimination.
You not only look great but you have a good wife too, carry on as you are and keep smiling.
Probably the best part for me is being liberated from society’s gender binary. Most people adhere to imaginary gender rules, even when they are in disagreement, thinking certain things are restricted. I can live in honesty with myself, not having to hide or maintain secrets anymore. I can wear the clothes and have the appearance that I am comfortable with. It’s hard to live life longing for the freedom to be yourself.
So in retrospect, I would say being an “out of the closet” transperson has been beneficial to my conscience and my health. HRT calmed the conflict between my mind and body. So for myself I would say that an after transition is a better place to be.