Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Thanks for all the advises which u provide it may seem small but it really do lots for people like me, again tahnk you
Hi Lucille:
Thanks for posting the video on walking your feminine best. I have been practicing keeping my shoulders down and back while keeping my back straight. It so does feel much different. Now I need to get my heels out and walk so that the hip movement flows like the video. I’m so glad I found your blog.
Bonnie
Dear Lucille,
Many thanks for your updates and info, it is inspiring and helpfull!
Anne
As always your spot on with your advice. I’ve been using all your advice and now I go where ever I what without any problems. All I can say is don’t think just go be natural relaxed look up and smile. Make it second nature. The more you do the easyer it becomes. I know get guys looking making comments on how I look asking me out extra. The woman even tell me that to. I’ve even get asked how to do makeup. They even ask how to walk in heals. There’s a lot more thing’s I can say put the best is thank you lucille for helping me become the woman Ian.
Thank you so much for the video Lucille
Deana, your the total attractive package , love your toned body and your legs are beautiful and well shaped. My legs are shapely also thanks to my Italian mother , so legs are the first thing I notice on this website.Dee
This is good advice, having spent many years trying to perfect my apearence to the outside world I know that relaxing is vital to passing in the street, smiling is as imprortant if you try this properly you will definatly feel much more confident afterwards, hold your head up, look confident walk with shorter steps and you will feal so good. I is worth trying, even if you are very shy do your self a favour and try it it dose work.
I loved the tip. Going to use for my diary life all the time!
People here in Rio de Janeiro accept our condition very well. Really Happy!!!!
I’ve been told that I carry myself very feminine. I do have to agree though this is great information. There are women that don’t do many of these things though so all the girls here should keep that in mind. Watch women around you you’d be surprised what you notice.
I love you site by the way!
Kayla