Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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What a great checklist! As for me, I was 90% there already just naturally. Still like to “add a little wiggle to the walk” but only if I’m not wearing heels. It’s so interesting because I spent soooo much time being taught how to walk and behave and act like a boy growing up. So as I remember those “tells” on how NOT to look feminine, I am basically undoing all that conditioning. How many other girls are just finally going back to what was normal?
lucille.how about advice for male persons who have attained the state of master feminine androgyny? They are now beyond female feminine yet are feminine in both form and energy.My research indicates there are now thousands of these males including young boys whom I call JOHANNA BOYS.I am writing a book on this phenomen. Looking forward to your reply.regards Johanna Warren
I so LOVE being Karen ….all your tips and advice are gratefully appreciated….keeps me going in tne right direction ….thanks so much!
This is a great post, Lucille! Thanks… I have a lot to work on. But it’s fun!
I am big and tall so I am already very conspicuous these tips seem to help with these tells at least. Thanks for the help, Dona
I have always moved and carried myself as a female. It has been done naturally since I was a small child. As a result, when my mother was teaching my sisters posture and and manners, I learned that too. I was called names in school and beaten several times but I never thought about the way I sat, walked or gestured, I just did it. My parents never tried to correct me, so that was that. My Dr. said it was one of the “tells” of being transgender. The only two pairs of shoes I own that do not have heels are my sneakers and my hiking boots. I live and function totally as a woman, am changing my name and gender in the next few months, and looking into the surgery. My family and friends all support me in this which brings me joy. Good wishes to all who are beginning the journey of self discovery, may you be as happy and content as I am.
i found,as in the videos,walking in heels with 1 step in front of the other creates shorter steps,and your hips sway naturally.
U said correct thing in india specially most of the tg put on nicr dresses juelery and nive make up but commits same mistake like body posture over movements voice anf behsviour when they are in public eurpian people are luvky they got good society who undestands the feeling and they(TG) got all the facility i on behalf of other tg community are thank ful to you who gives valuable advic thank you