Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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You forgot to mention that the bone structure of a female hip is slightly different to that of a male hip, and this results in a different walking style. Also, the female models in your videos do the typical model walking and putting one foot in front of the other. This results in quite a bit of ip sway. The male models just walk like regular guys, who have to keep their legs a little appart, because there is junk in between them they don’t want to hurt! All in all, a biological male who did not have bottom surgery can never walk like a female, they may try as hard as they want, it will not work.
By the way, I am almost 77 years old, and the attached picture was taken earlier this month. There is a lot one can do to look pretty good, even if one is older (I am an intersex person and never went through puberty).
Hi I think you look amazing,I am so envious:)
Thank you for sharing your photograph
Good luck
Christine
Just wanted to let you know that I am 64 and starting my male to female transition. I hope to look half as good as you at 77. Thanks for the motivation.
The best part of being a woman? I’ll never have to be a man again! I’ve taken all the steps to ensure that: GCS, BA, two rounds of FFS, 300+ hours of electrolysis and years of speech therapy to take care of the physical attributes. I’ve successfully completed changing my name and gender marker on ALL my state and federal ID documents including my birth certificate.
PS: There are 8 years between “before” and “after.” Ages 60 and 68. I also forgot to mention my marriage certificate is between “two Caucasian women.”
Three rounds of FFS. This is round 1
3 rounds of FFS between 60 & 68
Hi Bobbie! I actually just saw you on Facebook, and I applaud your transition! But is that photo of you at 68, really you? If so, congrats! Although your photo on Facebook is great, it doesn’t in my opinion resemble the one you posted. Either way, the photos on FB of you reflect a happy woman! Congrats!
simply awsome
Judging by the number of posts shown, I probably commented previously. But it was not all that long ago that I noticed that re items 1 and 4, yes, guys DO sway their shoulders, and gals don’t. So there is a giveaway to avoid. AND, a bonus: when you try not to sway your shoulders, your hips just naturally sway gently to compensate. QH, how SWEET! Interestingly enough, in the two videos above, the women who exaggerated their hip movements also had to sway their shoulders to compensate. Aren’t we all just the STRANGEST creatures?
O am a maternity crossdresser,so I waddle when I walk
It is marvellous to get a reminder about those niggley things that we may be doing wrong – in our practices of passing ourselves off as women
Thank you Lucille
I have found that walking in heels has greatly improved my feminine posture and forced me to take smaller steps, both of which have given me a nice little hip sway. I am a runner and have been wiki g on a higher cadence so all of the works together. Taking up too much space had never been much of a problem for me. I have always sat with my legs crossed like a woman and with my arms close to my body with my hands on my lap. With out recognizing my femininity as a young boy I used to always try to sit like my mother and her friends with my crossed leg shaking up and down gently in front of me to draw attention to them. I used to get teased for sitting like a girl but I didn’t care.
All of these new and reinforcing tips are so wonderful. Thank you.
I always viewed a woman’s crossed-leg swinging as not so secretly stimulating their vaginas. But that’s maybe just my dirty mind. Hey! It DOES feel nice.
I find that wearing very tight pencil skirts and slips makes me take shorter more feminine steps.