Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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But,but ,no fair!!! Those two sexy GGs in the video weren’t carrying their hand bags!!!!Like models on a runway!! Bring on the baggage..more realistic!
You’re right, Rogina! Women usually carry handbags. But in my opinion, it’s much harder to walk without carrying anything. (And you might find yourself in a situation like this – for example, running out from the dressing room to find something … leaving your seat to go to the salad bar in a restaurant, etc.) If you can walk gracefully without a handbag, you can definitely walk gracefully WITH a handbag.
Great observation, lovely!!
Hi Lucille,your advice is as always very usefull.As a tgirl with Indonesian roots it is for me not very difficult to move like a woman.Very often I walk on stiletto sandals,in wintertime only at home.So it comes very natural to have an elegant walk.Keep up the good work Lucille,you are a lovely lady!Kisses,Francesca
Dear Lucille, Thank you for all your wonderful, excellent advice, and for sharing the fine comments of so many lovely sisters. Years ago, before going out on my own, I went out a few times with friends from the TV club I belonged to at that time,-thinking there would be strength in numbers. I quickly realzed that we looked like a parade of zombies and began to fall behind a little with one or two companions who knew how to look and walk like normal ladies. In addition to being completely relaxed and walking with a flowing rythm that is neither stiff or exaggerated, there needs to be an inner calm and peace and confidence that find expression an a pleasant or at least peaceful face. Love , Melanie
I would like to walk like the girl on the right as she seems so natural. I wish the camera was at least hip high as the ankles predominate rather than the whole gait. Both girls look/move wonderfully though. My next step is getting into heels!! 🙂 Thanx Lucille.
thank you so much for the tips..thank you for showing as well as telling, the video was very helpful.
Hi
It may sound strange but I am much more relaxed when out as Brenda than in my male mode.Thank you for your video, and your points about over exaggerating the hip and swing movement. I think another point is that, like in the video, women walk with footsteps in line.
One of the loveliest comments I have received on my walking was from one of friends who said “are you sure you are not a woman”
Brenda xxx
These advice are very helpful to me. I have been trying to walk on heels to help me walk more feminine and I think it´s the best way to do it on high heels. I also move my hands like the girl on left in the video, or try to LOL. I have one question to you dear Lucille, if I may. I have been using Saw Palmetto for about 6 months but I quit for about month ago. My breasts are still growing. I am not going full time so I am a little nervous about it, is that normal thay still grow and what can I expect.
Thanks and hugs, Karen.
Thanks, Lucille. I have been out and about of late and had absolutely no problems. I think the high heels do the trick with walk and posture. You are, as always, perfectly right. The following day, though, is always aching feet! Women like us have to accept that too…..
LOL, that’s true. Beauty hurts!