Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille,
I have been walking in high heels since I was 12. Started with my moms, then started buying my own. The first thing I noticed was how my hips swayed like a girls. I also love the way they shape my legs and ass. When enfem, I wear 4-6 inch heels. A sexy pair of high heels that coordinate with my outfit really gets me believing I’m a girl. Thanks for your help in growing my own breasts.
Love, Tina
I have always loved heels, sandals and anything that is sexy. Every since I started wearing my mothers heels and clothes it gave me a rush. I am 75 and I may be old, however the feeling never gets old.
I think growing up with three sisters and a mother and years of martial arts, tai chi, and yoga help me to be feminine in my walking and movements. And of course, heels help. Thanks Lucille.
I have always had trouble not acting feminine as a male. I had to learn to cover and mask. I no longer care therefore I get some odd looks in my male persona.
I don’t have issues of holding myself as a woman…I have always adored women and watch them. I as very close to my mother and sisters growing, being a girl is so natural for me. The only thing I would like to change is mt foot size, I wear a size 14 in men’s shoe and so have to order a 15 or a 16 in women’s shoes. The problem is there is not a large selection to choose from. I have 5 pairs and soon to get another one. And soon after that I most likley will order the same colors, some with straps some without… Oh I just die when I see a woman in shoes that I would just love to wear but can’t find them in my size. Mya Ann Smith
Thank you so much, as always your tips do help, but his is a very well appreciated one. I he past my waliking has acutualy tired me out i tried so hard that it was a job. now with the little less stiffness and more relaxed walk i think i am working towards a more fem sway and can go longer with out wanting to sit. I know that i am carring my frame with a realer look lve ya Penny
Lucille,
I’ve been wearing heels in the evenings for over 20 years and still learn something new everyday about being a woman. Thank you for everything you do for us.
Lotta Love,
Michelle Marie
I don’t know about the walk yet, but I just got back from snowboarding at Lake Louise in the Rockies. Women tend to learn snowboarding faster because they shift position with their hips and ass, whereas men tend to use their upper bodies and shoulders, looking very awkward.
I found that with my new shape – less belly, more bum and breast, I just moved better, with my centre of gravity lower. I definitely noticed by feeling femme on the slopes, wearing a cute contouring sports bra, my snowboarding improved significantly.
Wow! That’s great, Nancy!! I’m sure you looked super cute on the slopes. 🙂
Thank you so much Lucille for providing this lovely forum and wonderful topics. I find so much pleasure in practicing feminine movements, walking,dancing,sitting,dining,reading,even bending over, they soon become my natural movements. Practice,practice,practice. Fun,fun,fun! So learning to relax was very important to me. Meditation and yoga can help you find that calm place within yourself. I found that by starting slowly,trying to prefect each motion,before I would think about the timing or speed.Relax and Enjoy the Journey! Once you have Mastered the Movements you may hurry if you have to! I was surprised no one mentioned a little bounce when walking in heels? XOXOX Honey