Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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great tips, honey, luv u!
Hi Lucille,
I am very new to opening up to my femme self,but something I have noticed. I wear french panties under my day-clothes and find they are very chastising-hide my male genitles and give a very feminine appearance.But I have found ,with no male bits hanging between my legs, I seem to naturally walk with my steps in a straighter line-more feminine and not the manly “cowpoke” gait. I am not tall and elegant,but this femme gait makes me feel so.
Tabitha
hi lucille, i’ve always found that walking one foot in front of the other helps my hips sway, i like the advice about moving your arms too, with the direction of the palms facing back… thanks again, michelle
Ihave always been more fluid in my movement than most genetic males but what realy suprised me was how fast i was able to walk in pumps it was like second nature within hours i was walking in heels as if id done it my whole life.
The sway in the hips was just as easy i do not even think about it any longer.
Cheers Kattie
I’ve been practicing my fem walk, everyday walking about 1 1/2miles and have noticed I love how my hips are moving without even thinking about it.
I have trouble with Femme Walking. As a younger person when I was small I was more feminine and being a (an explicit word for gay) and wearing “women’s drawers” as my father so meanly put it, and being girly like I when I was younger (God I wish I could just get rid of all the masculineity garbage and let my feminine shine again.) wasn’t accepted in the area of the South I grew up in.
Hi Lucille
I have found that women invariably have a shorter stride than men but a much quicker step and that they walk with greater purpose than men even when in high heels.
One tip to try is, if you have a voice recorder or a voice memo function on your mobile, record the sounds of a woman walking past in high heels and then listen back to the recording when you are in your own high heels and try and mimic the pace and stride of her walk. You may be surprised at how different it is from your male stride or from the female stride that you have currently been using. Failing that just watch the short video and count 1-2, 1-2 or left-right, left-right everytime one of the girls takes a step.
Claire Doolan
i beg to differ. heels are not allways the way to do it. i have had back problems all my life so when i decited to go fem. i thougt there has to be another way to get that wiggle so i decited to try platform shoes and by putting one foot in front of the other i developed my girly walk. and every body i meet dressed up in fem tell me i have a great walk. now tats the way i did it.