Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. One of my favorite confidence boosting tools is hypnosis. Want to try it for yourself?
Click here to sign up for my FREE 8 minute Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini session.
I feel my self confidence , how I look like ?
Gorgeous!!
You not only look confident but you also look beautiful. I’d love to chat with you but I should tell you that I am 80 years old.
Andrea
Great and confident and proud and happy. Good looking in addition or because of the first four.
Confidence is a suit of armor with a pretty dress over it, and an attractive umbrella above it. You look good, feel good, and are impervious to all but a nuclear attack.
I really do consider myself to be a stunning self confident woman its just been awhile since I’ve dressed I stopped when my wife passed but now I feel I should go forward from where I left off 1 year and 7 months ago I loved my wife and she me and I know she would want me to continue to pursue my dream of becoming the woman she knew me to be inside I need to lose a little weight and get back to taking care of myself soon I should be able to get back on my feet where I intend to start transitioning of course I want things move quickly but I may have to slow down and enjoy the journey I’ve so long awaited with the help I am receiving from you Lucille I’m sure I will be more stunning and confident than ever before and I truly cant wait to get started but I must for now be patient Love M.J.
Oh! my mind is just racing today I really don’t know what to say I’m feeling so much better I’m ecstatic my life is improving slowly very slowly I just have to be patient and it’s really hard to do I feel feminine even though I have a month’s beard growth but I really don’t feel I can shave here at my sisters in truth I could it just feels so strange here no bathroom of my own where I could take my time and be careful relax and give myself a good clean shave all over if I shave my face I’ll want to do the rest of me and if I do that I’ll want to dress completely and I cant so I just have to suffer through this a while longer
I believe that my acceptance of my feminine persona has been paramount to my well being (both physical and mental) and my ability to pass in public. I now feel more at ease “in full regalia” than I do living male. I often get hit on by genetic women while out as well as the men and that is a great confidence booster. I am who I am and I love being me. I can overcome the “defects” I was born with to be who I am inside. This flower will bloom!
Being a woman is being comfortable in your own skin. It’s really in your head. I began with the self hypnosis tapes, and when I was in south France TRYING to pass for male, I was addressed as “madam” constantly. Now I’m comfortable with who and what I am, and it no longer bothers me. I present as female 24/7 and no one thinks different. It DOES help to add accessories that you feel comfortable with like a nice ring or necklace that is artistic and not kitschy. Grooming is also important, and on a windy day make sure you don’t look like you just stepped off your broom on a recent flight. Remember tomboys fight like the dickens not to be feminine, but are still identified as female. Why is that? Because in the core of their being, they are still a girl, and they know it.
So remember who you are in the core of your being, be comfortable, and the confidence will come.
Best Regards,
Eliza
i find confidence in me… i meditate daily to find new things about myself that make me confident. whether its my hands are fastest in my home town (sandwich making) or that i happen to look extra femme that day. its always something, or even thoes closest to me. they even inspire confidence
As I said before so is your confidence very dependent that you understand why it is as it is and why you want to do it.
I myself found it easy to get out from the male roule when I realised after studying lots of info on the net, that I most suerly was a girl on the inside. After that it was easy. My confidence went up and I started to feel happy again. Otherwise I can also recommend the hypnosis sessions. We have to realize that we are mostly driven by our subconsious part of our brain. The consious part is only about 7% and hypnosis is one good way to try to speak to our subconsious mind. Which of course leads to more understanding why and more confidence.
Good luck all lovely ladies
Jullan