Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. One of my favorite confidence boosting tools is hypnosis. Want to try it for yourself?
Click here to sign up for my FREE 8 minute Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini session.
Having lunch in Wimberly TX, near San Antonio. Fake it till you make it 🙂
I don’t know if anyone saw me as anything other than what I was. Had a great time!
I am not transitioning but I love dressing and sometimes confidence takes a lot of what I am hiding :-). The key for me is to keep my head up and look at people, in other words act normal. Voice is a big thing and getting the resonance out of my chest is the key.
Thanks! Breast can take 3-5 years to develop…..I am currently a 38 B-36 C
I am 24/7. Yes. Confidence is built by being yourself. Going out of your comfort zone. Me. I visit places with a large population. Like my local Naval bases. Fairs. San Diego Zoo. Beaches. Trains. Buses. Trolleys. Tourist locations. If I can visit those places. Everything else is a piece of cake.
If I am out in this world more frequent, my confidence grows. When it’s less frequent, I start to loose my confidence. Something I still work on.
You look just fine
Very cute. You need to believe in yourself more.
Girl you got it going on
Hi Tina! I think you look lovely! Go out there girl, the more you go, the more you feel confident!
Yes confidence is very important. Without it I could not have gotten any jobs. I dress as a female because I am a female, only in a male body. There will be a time when I won’t have to worry about that anymore. Until then I wish you good luck sisters!
I hope I’m looking pretty good.
You look great Jamie! Just have to keep going out and having fun! Here I am yesterday, I bet we are close to the same age. Have fun! Hugs, Suzy
Thank you Suzy. You look awesome. I wouldn’t have to look at you twice and turn my head you look very feminine.
I’m starting to get to that confidence level but still working on it
I am transgender mtf been on hormones 15 plus years…..trust me gets easier with time….biggest thing is give yourself time to develop.
Jessica
Hi jess Jamie here you look very nice and fabulous.