Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. One of my favorite confidence boosting tools is hypnosis. Want to try it for yourself?
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advice from femme secrets has helped a lot… still buy my clothes , shoes and lingerie dressed as a man … but do go out as Deana to tranny friendly places
Sometimes I just remind myself to smile and my confidence rises 🙂
Feel the fear, take a deep breath, hold your head up high, and strut, Ladies. The first time I went out fully en femme it was still daylight and I was scared with a capital S!
I did just what I said above and walked out through the lobby and front door of the hotel. The bar there already had a number of guys in it and they went quiet when I walked past. High heels, long legs, short denim skirt, and faked confidence. When I heard a long, low whistle I relaxed enough to breathe again in spite of the tight corset I was wearing.
Confidence carrid me through that room and so many more after that. Confidence is sexy and it sells you when you are trying to pass.
Your advice, products, and encouragement have helped my,and I’m sure others,confidence, as well as practicing it!
Marian
I am not quite confident yet. I am still practicing feminine body language, and I am finding it very challenging.
I didn’t have confidence until, I started taking the professional tips from Lucille. I like what, I see and feel good about my appearance regardless of those around me.
You have a great figure work with Susan. Keep up the good work and it will feel more and more second nature to you….and even your first!
take care
hi susan. i too have a lot of trouble getting the feminine body movements so they are passable and real as opposed to looking like a flamer. i cant seem to really mimick it well and unfortunately as soon as i open my mouth i usually get called sweetheart or honey, even when, at first glance someone will call me miss. can i help you miss, good morning miss. one older man at walfart (i mean walmart hehehe) actually called me babe, how are babe?; thank you fr shopping at walmart babe. im not sure if thats good or bad:-/.
although my BFF said i shake my tusshie better than some real women .. she also said my tushhie is small so its not completely noticable. someone said i look a bit Blanche devereaux from golden girls. the real sl#&%y one of the 3 girls. i think i overdo it a lot of times with the feminine movements and so it seems like its a dead giveaway that im not a genetic women. when i m on public transit to my job, i watch the women and how they move, and i try to immitate it, especially women that i think are very attractive and all. so i try to see how theyre sitting and walking and and standing. itoo would like to get a lot better. my face (ive been told, this is NOTmy opinion is very pretty and slightly feminine. i think im very middle of the road looking with a very generic face. with makeup and lipstick and all, my face is slightly feminine. anyway im hoping over time i get better at immitating true femininity. i wish you lots of luck. lauralynn
Your picture looks very girly Susan! Well done!
Thank you Brenda! I am doing my best in order to look as girly as I can. Your comment means that my efforts are paying off, and this is great because I feel motivated to keep practicing.
Hi girls
I have a heart-warming account, of when I came out to a team of solar canvassers. The Team Leader bought me a ladies’ swimsuit and woman’s head covering (I inserted my forms) and the team invited me to a session (en femme) within a jacuzzi and swimming arena of a leisure centre. They endorsed my decision to announce my feminine disposition, and supported me by being seen socially with me.
I believe that if you want something badly enough and show that you are proud of yourself, then you will gain acceptance.
That is so nice. What great friends you have!
Great comments Jessika. I appreciate you.
I have only been out twice. Both my sisters accepted who I am. They are so supportive. I could not have done it without them. My confidence has increased exponentially, although opportunities are very limited. I plan on taking advantage of every opportunity to venture out en femme.
Christine.