There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I think if one does want to comment on a topic that it be framed as an opinion and follow it up as to what the listeners thoughts or opinions are like ‘what do you think?’. This gives the listener a chance to offer their opinion and avoids telling them or giving the impression that what you have to say is the final word. Of course, I understand that it is preferable upfront to ask the listener questions relevant to the subject before offering one’s own opinion.
For me as a trans women with Autism. I have always had more of a female speech pattern more on the shy side though. It just is frustrating when I’m around certain people my voice tends to go deeper then I would like.
Keep on practising, Christy, and it will become natural — the advice given by Lucille Sorella is very helpful ! It will all become natural in time — and you’re a pretty girl !…
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Love this.
Only goes to prove a point to me – I always thought I talked more like a woman than a man. So nice to understand the difference.
Is there any songs that can be practiced singing to bring out the feminine voice?
Thanks for this great article, i tend to use these patters naturally since my childhood, so I had to learn the male way communication when I started my career in It. Charlien is my trans women name. So, I feel confirmed in my core female nature, the ideal start of a magnificent purely feminine day,.
I fall somewhere inbetwixt. Speaking with men, they ask if I’m gay. Speaking with women, I can hear my masculine verbiage. Probably because it is noticeable to me, I will get a better control over it as time goes on. Then again, maybe it’s not a bad thing being inbetwixt.
I loved the insights from this article. Being more descriptive, sharing feelings in expanded details and asking questions are all suggestions that are very valuable. It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to connect with others and open up about our feelings. By sharing, listening carefully and responding with our genuine reactions and our own personal experiences and outlook, we open ourselves up for a deeper connection with others. It’s liberating to feel that we are not holding things in, but rather letting things out. This is our feminine nature that we may have bottled up before. So nice to show our sensitivity, caring and empathy.