There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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The last lingering problem i still struggle with is my voice. While not perfect in other areas, i still get “double-take” looks at the stores. My general upbeat attitude, smile, etc. gets me “forgiven” mostly, but i long for the day i can blend completely and that’s always about the voice.
Very recently, i came across a hint that seems to help greatly. i practice into my ever-present voice recorder and have heard some encouraging results. This hint is to speak as femininely as you know how, but concentrate on picturing the sound as coming out the very tip of your nose. Try it, it works. Now to practice, practice, practice with a new confidence of success.
Hugs,
Serena
Yes it’s maybe my biggest challenge! My vocabylary is more fem, but voice pitch, esp consistantly, continues to be a problem. Thanks again Lucille!
Marian
This is is really the first time in my life that I understand why I always have tried to explain everything in detail in conversations.
Needless to say, that I live and work as a woman for a number of years now.
Previously (as a man) I had a problem with other men getting tired of my explanations.
Now I understand why.
I am so glad that I could have my final “corrections” almost five years ago.
I like to read your blog.
Love
Jeanette
Personally, I just talk a little slower and softer when I am en femme. I don’t seem to have a problem. Just love being accepted as one of the “girls”.
Need a “Male to Female, Female to Male Language Thesaurus” :p
I have trouble with the language period, because I am on the autism spectrum.
I have a question, It does mean that women are in general more extrovert? If so is a part mental actitude. Right?
Carrying off a feminine voice has always been my downfall. All I want for Christmas is my own feminine voice that’s just me.