Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I thought I might have been too old at 33. Now , 5 years into my life change 4.5 into hormones, I am very very happy. im glad I was blessed with full head of hair, no body hair and feminine body. although im 5’10, I blend in like a chameleon. Im Soooooooo glad I did it when I did. Don’t WAIT!! Strike while the iron is HOT!
What I know about being to old to transition? I really have no interest in switching. I enjoy the benefits of both the male and female world. When I do go to the “EnFemme” mode I do so completely. Having multiple sets of breast forms and developing my own version of the lady parts enables me to go ahead and completely transform without the surgery. When making the transformation there is no other feeling like it. I love all things soft and silky and enjoy them every chance that I get. My only regret is that I waited until I was age 50 before I finally accepted what I was and decided to run with it. At age 66 my spouse knows about it and as I just found out most recently my youngest daughter has known about it for five years is never said anything about it. There’s no other feeling that I can experience knowing that the daughters completely accepting of it and that the wife is slowly but surely coming around to it. I’ve seen in numerous other comments here that would recommend that anybody who has the feeling or need for transformation do it as soon as possible and do not put it off. I just cry when I think of all the time that I spent in the closet not being able to enjoy this.
I have been diagnosed early on with being transgendered when I was 20. Though, I never really felt the need for the major surgeries or HRT and am comfortable with my male self and the “workarounds” I have learned over the years. You can be a woman with a penis, as I have met several who even have both sex organs. Boobs do not make you a woman, they just add to the appearance, as, I have met numerous GG’s who have little or none. It’s you that makes you a woman. I have accepted the fact that I am a woman with a penis and like my hermaphrodite Gf’s, I am just that more special because of who I am. I live life at work as a man ,(men unfortunately, always seem to make more money),and the rest of the time as a woman. My GG wife supports ,me whole heatedly and so do my 3 grown children.
I have been going out in public for over 35 years. I am ok with growing older gracefully. Of course, it was so easy when i was in my 20’s to throw makeup on and go clubbing, shopping and the like. Now I am 55 and comfortable with my looks. Although, I often do stare into the makeup mirror wondering how much longer I can carry this off.
I am grateful for all the years of fun, drama, and friends I have made throughout the years. I even hold dear the times when I had to defend myself both verbally and physically as they make great stories to tell now. I so encourage people to take the plunge and start enjoying life as they want, no matter what age.
I will tell you this, the more effort you put into it, the better the rewards. When i was a young filly, we did not have wonderful resources like this and had to stumble through a lot to get it right. Start off by working your look and style by reading everything you can. Then go to a support group meeting or any gay bar that has drag shows. If they have drag shows they generally accept transgendered, cross-dressers and the like. Believe me, the Gay community is full of hair dressers, stylist, and Queens who will let you know what you are not getting right! LOL! Don’t ever be hurt by anything someone may say, use every moment and comment as a learning experience!
Thank-you Lucille for this wonderful site, you’re amazing! Remember….LIVE life or die with regret!
First of all I would encourage any “young” and transgendered person to not wait. Do not walk “run” to a gender therapist and find yourself and then move in that direction only. In the long run it is a decision you won’t regret.
I am 65 and know that being female even at this stage of my life would make my last years very happy except for being extremely lonely. Just crossdressing has driven 50% of my family away.
Nut I think that if I had moved thon this when i was much younger by now I would be past this issue. As it is I now content myself with the part time version of my true feminine self.
I agree with you most of the way, I am about 18
months to 2 years behind you.
I am hoping to get proper hormone therapy and hopefully to get fuller breasts. I am working on coming out full time. Someone else said strike while
the iron is hot, that’s easier said than done for some.
But if anyone has the smallest chance > do it!.
Hi Marylin.
Boy do I know what you are talking about, I am an androgynous male from birth, as a child people looked a my sister and I and they would comment to Mom what cute twin girls she had….. hmmmmm I was too young to reply to those comments, in High School kids teased me because of my name and fem looks,teachers alike, I then wanted to be “Hulk” and kick their rears, but I knew that I did look more like a girl than a boy, no body hair, a thin mustache didn’t appear until I was in my late twenties.
This was the start of my confusing life, I knew something within me was different, never seem to fit in with the rest, I had a fem side that from time to time needed some nurturing, I was somewhat lost and living in a house full of “Macho” type people didn’t make life any easier, later in life I became president and owner of an engineering company, I presented myself as a male most of the time but I have a soft fem side that was very noticeable and appreciated by most, I learned that some how I could shift gears from male to fem in ten seconds or less, the ability to do such triggered ridicule and negative comments from folks that didn’t know me, but I had been exposed to this all of my life at home so I learned to live with that.
I accept myself as I am, at 65 now and retired I enjoy my life, when my girlfriend and I go out I never dress totally masculine or feminine, I chose the androgynous look and people find me more interesting, I am woman and men, I present my self in either mode as necessary,
one side of my wardrobe includes, panties, camisoles,(for daily wear) women’s stretch jeans (better fit than men’s) women’s shoes (tennis, hiking boots, riding boots heels and sandals) I have very narrow feet so men’s shoes don’t fit correctly.
Releasing my self from the closed minded people has given me A new lease in life, you bet! I love it, I feel younger and healthier than I was ten years ago, age and the constraints from our western culture has nothing to do with our life desires, we are what we are, enjoy it while you can, we are not here forever.
May God Bless you.
Meekah Pompanov.
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The tablets enclose oil .
Is that the same thing as the powder?
Hi Renee,
This is Jennie, Lucille’s Director of Customer Care.
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Jennie
I would have loved to come out and live full-time, i never had the right moment to do so, And I was also blessed with a 6’3″ 245 pound body of a Linebacker..and at 49 years old, i know my “window” has passed.. I am not gay, but Identify as Transgendered, So dressing on the side, or at private events actually depresses me, because It is just a shell of who or what I have always longed to be, and still do..But no more than the person who wanted to be a star, or a pro athlete and never got there< i have mostly come to terms with my life, and I just live with and accept the what ifs? and coulda beens… but i will say this, the techniques and technologies and drugs available today are so much more advanced then when i was 18-25..if you are in that age group now, don't make the mistake of waiting like I did, Say you come out today..by next week the shock will wear off and most will accept it, and twenty 5 years of being the Woman you feel you were meant to be Later, you will not be me on the sidelines wondering what it would have been like…LIVE FOR TODAY!
Wow – Awesome response Shirley. I will keep this one handy as I come out in the coming months.
Too old? Not until you’re dead. I spent most of my life conforming to the societal norm for all sorts of very good reasons why I should not and could not be what I most dearly wanted to be, just one of the girls. Sixty years of suffering and confusion was in vain. There was no plan. I was simply out as Shirley at a salon one day and felt so comfortable as a woman, so happy and accepted suddenly in just seconds I didn’t want to go back to living as a man. In fact I couldn’t and wouldn’t because it would be too painful. Yes, I paid a terrible price for that decision hitting the family wall like a crash car but it was over in a couple months. I don’t regret it and would pay that price again. I’ve been living as Shirley 2 years now happier than ever. Everyday is wonderful and a blessing. Even more, I feel like I’m plugged into an unlimited source of spiritual power as Shirley. Unstoppable, unsinkable, unlimited. Mark my words. I’m not done yet. Me and my incredible friends and supporters are going to move mountains before we’re done. Listen closely to the words of Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right!” Do you think you can? You’re right. Do you think you can’t? You’re right. Don’t think you can transition on the job? Talk to personel. Most companies have strict non descrimination rules to protect the company from lawsuits and government fines. All of you have more power than you may think. Blow the doors off and be yourself.
A very inspiring message Shirley.