Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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The only thing I can say is: good good good to know I am a crossdresser and being like man, is not like feeling myself beautiful, delicate and feminine.
Crossdresser is a new style of life which has no explanation but it is so amazing.
Thanks for this nice blog, please, keep on showing the true to the world!
Because the crossdresser world, is a reality.
Im 43 and waiting for a referral to a gender clinic, the nhs in the uk is slow with this kind of thing. BUT, I can wait, ive waited this long. Im just hoping that at some stage I can be at peace with who I am. Im really enjoying these pages , by the way, great articles x
One of my earliest crossdressing memories is when I was four years old and my mother caught my wearing a lace night gown that belonged to my six year old sister. I have spent my entire life dealing with the girl living inside of me and always worried that someone would see the person that I have been trying so hard to hide. I am now in my fourties and I am tired of hiding who I really am. I had a couple of homosexual experience when I was in my twenties, but I thought it was just a phase at the time. Then I met a nice girl, got married and had a couple of kids like a lot of guys. From the beginning I was always open and honest with my wife about my past relationships and my love for crossdressing. For the past couple of years my inner woman has become very restless and i wish that I could just let her out. I took your test that tells what my inner genger is and I was not surprised that my score showed mine to be 83℅ feminine. I love my wife very much, but we have grown apart sexually and I have lost my desire to be with a woman. I would instead love to be a woman and be made love to by a man. Every day my inner woman is getting stronger and I sometimes let her show a little when I am in public or around coworkers. I don’t want to hurt or disappoint others, but I need to let my true self out and stop hiding her from the world without seeming like an uncaring monster. I only want to achieve a level of happiness and comfort that allows me to feel whole. Do you think that this is a realistic goal for me or am I just fooling myself?
To Ricky, I agree somewhat to what Elizabeth wrote, I presume you must be somewhere
between 45 to 50 yrs. If so, you’re still young, I’m in my early 60’s and I wish I had known
about the herbs 20 or more years ago.
I found Lucille’s website about 4 yrs ago & started the fenugreek, I am near “B” cup, I cannot
take the full fenugreek dose because of diabetes.
BUT I tell you it’s fantastic having the boobs I’ve got, moral of story-don’t leave it too late.
Hi Ricky,
You are not just fooling yourself and the feelings you are having are not going to go away. Keep moving and find a way to be yourself – it will be worth it.
Hugs,
Elizabeth.
I started cross-dressing into my mother’s clothes in 1959. When I was growing up there wasn’t much information on the subject of transgender (TG). Young people with thoughts such as mine were considered queer and fell into Abby Normal’s family. I believe that the Internet has been greatest advocate, organizer, and educator for people experiencing TG. I married at 19 in a vain attempt to become “normal.” In actuality I exposed a beautiful woman to my tormented world. She never accepted Barbara nor wished to join me with in my psychotherapy sessions. My word given at the alter will always be honored. Therefore, Barbara Anne is only free wile I am on the road for work (which is quite frequently) or a weekend away alone. I spent 19 years with the U.S. Army and National Guard … I guess to prove my “manhood.” None of my attempts to confirm my “manliness” ever changed who I really am … Barbara Anne Martin. A 65 year young woman who enjoys her femininity beyond the words to describe the experience. I sit here before my computer with my body smoothly shaved, my makeup expertly applied, in a long, black, strapped gown, my wig freshly washed and beautifully brushed, and with long red fashion nails which make typing an adventure. Tomorrow Barbara will drive home, stopping occasionally to sight see and prolong the experience. When I reach 30 minutes from home I will transition into the person my wife married, because I respect and love her still. She suffered a stroke a few years ago, which has reduced her mental capacity a bit and increased her fears. Losing me can never be a concern for her. While I appreciate the call for us girls to leave the closet, doing so at the expense of my wife’s peace of mind will never happen. Cheers, Barbara Anne.
Hello Barbara Anne,
What an emotional story you tell – I think I lot of us can related to the dilemma between being ourselves and the inevitable impact on our loved ones. Everyone has to find their own way to reconcile that dilemma. Good luck to you, and I hope everything works out.
Hugs,
Elizabeth.
You are the best Lucille. For a long time i was suffering from my inner conflict.. Fearing social stigmas.. Rejection by family, friends etc. You gave me enough confidence and helped me to get liberated. None of my fears were true. I am accepted by my family and friends and now live happily as a woman. Thanks again Lucille
That’s wonderful! I am so touched to hear that. You are a beautiful woman.
Love,
Lucille
Well, how old is ‘old’?. There is no defined number. The term “better late than never” might apply, except that “late” implies something false – that you are not where you should be. If you are blossoming in your 50’s then things are happening when they should, for you. You are the sum total of your experience, in this and previous lives (many of which were female, I assure you) and what you are expressing at this point in life is what you need. The older I get the bolder I get. For certain reasons I was reminded that we should not be afraid to live while we can. Express yourself. I agree with Garima, being feminine makes you look and feel younger. It also gives one incentive to maintain a healthier body. And, in my opinion, if you got the bod, flaunt it, girl! You are not living to please the ‘judges’.
Love to all,
Tara Lynn
I feel you are never too old to be true to yourself. If you dress, dress appropriately. My wife makes me feel younger every time she does my make- up and hair. No one believes the pictures when we are done that they are of a woman who is going to be 49 on her next birthday this year. Your attire is what can make or break you being passable in public I feel so a 40-something woman should not be trying to dress and look like an 18 year old girl. I want thank you Lucille for all you do and your blogs have been so helpful to me, Please don’t ever stop.
I feel being a man makes one old very early. Once we start being feminine we become younger day by day. Look my appearance from my backside in this pic. Now I am 34 yrs young and old. I must thank Lucille Sorella for introducing us to this beautiful world. Really this site is a heaven of women.