Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Exactly Jin, when asked I always reply two digits. Won’t admit to being a war babe. (WW2)
Wine become sweeter with age. Pop the cork and taste the satisfaction !
That might work for you bobbi but not for all of us girl’s I myself don’t care for dry wine’s or taste of champene would rather have glass of good whiskey or good beer not get drunk or unconsice
Age is just a number. Ignore it.
I was worried that it would be impossible to crossdress successfully as an older person. I have found that I am now accepted more as a woman than I ever was when I was younger. I have totally accepted my feminine side and have never been happier. I go where i want when I want and with whom I want now and don’t give it a second thought. I went through the whole nine yards of being afraid of being read as a man in a dress, to go out at all when dressed, then the anxiety about getting out of my car – especially during the daytime – or going into a store to shop. Fortunately for me all the fear and anxieties are gone for me. When shopping I am always referred to a ma’am, I get help from store clerks all the time and am never asked who or what I am. I go to restaurants, movies, concerts without giving it a second thought. I do dress the way women my age dress, don’t get carried away with makeup or trying to look 20 or 30. My female voice has developed and am even addressed as ma’am on the phone. For me getting older has given me the opportunity to feel and express my femininity with confidence.
Age should not be a factor of transitioning except to the very young (ie younger then 4-5. However there is definitely times that are very hard to transition or even dress. Let me explain. There was a book I read long ago that put a Trans factor scale, the scale had two parts: an intensity level and an affiliation one.
The affiliation one was geared toward the old terms like CD, TS, TG, DQ etc, that in it self has changed as to who belongs to what and does what, and does not really matter as we all occupy different parts of the same ship.
The intensity level was based on how often you think about your fem self and how close to the thoughts of, “I will rather be dead if I don’t do it right now.” (RbD) IE. If you think about it once a week, and it is just a passing fancy then you are fairly low in both areas. If you think about it every 30 seconds and you would rather be dead if not done right now, you are very high on the intensity level and most likely transitioning or about to kill your self. Me I currently am about once every hr or so, but only about 50% up on the RbD. However in my life experience I have noticed that adjusts a bit year to year. There was a time when it was every 30min or so and fairly high on the RbD. Also I am assuming once someone Transitions both drop down to low if not go away, but assuming only.
Now if you take life side by side with the intensity level. Let’s use the “Erikson Stages” as a life behavior during various stages of life. We could use any model and I am not saying Erikson is any better then any of the others. The scale is ages: 0-1 Infant, 2-3 Toddler, 3-6 Preschool, 7-12 School age, 12-18 Adolescent, 20-45 Young adult, 30-60 Adult, 50+ Old Adult. During each of these stages you have different factors and responsibilities, motivations that effect your depressions.
When you are an infant and Preschool your parents are living Gods and you do what they want. And you have no ability to make a good decision as to trans-ness at these ages.
At school age into adolescents you are getting wised up but still fairly dumb and are going through puberty. At this time if you have the right help and knowledge you might be able to make a decent life choice. You are still under your parents wing however, the danger is your parents still want to make the decision for you, and somethings they just don’t know about. If your intensity level is high enough to overcome not just your fem self but puberty as well, this is the ideal time to transition and/or explore your self, as to have the fullest life as possible. Wisdom from most of the old cats would gladly go back and do it back when they were in there teens.
Young adult you do not have a family yet and very few responsibilities thus your intensity level might take you over your fears you used to have. Personally I feel this is a good time to transition. Problem is you most likely have no assets or money to make it happen.
Adult you have the resources and the wisdom to make a good choice. But you most likely have a family. Transitions and exploring with family are hard, not only on you, but them as well. 97% of the time it will cause serious emotional harm to your spouse witch in turn will cause harm to your kids via her. To the kids you are still the parent and they will accept you most of the time. (They probably already knew.) This in my opnion will be one of the hardest times to transition as all will be against you. I had a friend once till me that transitioning was like killing your old self and starting anew. Imagine if you parent/spouse committed suicide, how would you feel.
Old Adult, well you are wise, have good assets, and super close family have moved out (Kids). If you had a spouse they are either in it for the long haul or most likely moved on. Either way to explore your self at this stage is far easier. However as I am sure you all know if you transition at this stage physically you will never have your 20’s self again. The living as a nubile young woman will never happen to you. Also you will never be a mom no matter how much you want that.
So are you too old? No, but the time may not be right now for that area of your life, only you can judge. Just remember you only get to live this life one time, it would be a shame to have regrets.
Your comments have made me feel like I’m not alone. I started re-connecting to my feminine side about two years ago and started purchasing bras and panties but I have now started to purchase some outfits for myself.
I haven’t yet purchased any makeup but I am getting more confidence to start that soon.
I have a wonderful friend who doesn’t live close to me who has made me feel so great about me doing this.
I haven’t allowed any of my family or friends to know my desires for dressing yet and I may never have confidence to let them know since I’m afraid that they wont understand this.
I have come out to my therapist about me dressing and she is encouraging me to not feel guilty doing this even though I was shamed when I was younger when I was wearing my mothers and sisters outfits as well as putting on makeup. This is why I may never allow my family to know I am dressing.
I have bought panties off and on for some years, but couldn’t ever wear 24/7. Now, I wear panties most of the time, but I’m still not comfortable bringing it up with my wife of 30+ years. I know she is the one person I should be most at ease with, but I truly fear her reaction will be much less than positive. I’ve recently been looking at and buying bralettes and my first bra. I don’t know if I’ll ever go further than underdressing. I don’t really have a desire to present as female; I’m happy just being a guy who likes to wear lingerie!
I agree fully with this blog. I am 33 years old and I have not yet revealed my true femme self to any of my friends and family members, but I have a wanted to more and more lately. so I do believe that you are never too old to be a beautiful and gorgeous looking and acting female you can be.
I think there comes a time when transitioning is a no-no. I speak as a mainly closet woman, going out occasionally but not with people who are terribly close to me. It’s about the emotional turmoil, not only for me but for close family (and, to a lesser degree, friends) should I wish to transition. Maybe if I had been braver when younger things may have been different. But, I have nothing but admiration for those who make the decision to become the woman they know they are – and I wish them all the best wishes I can.
Lovely picture of you, Christine!
I was like you once upon a time, I fought my inner urge’s for years only to find it was a losing battle, and finally at 50 I could no longer hide my inner being and had to come out! I have no regrets on coming out, only that I was fearful for so many years!
I am the same way. I fear for my loved ones more than myself if I come out. I really fear of what my daughter may think. I also fear that I may lose them forever.