Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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intrigued aged 66 wife confused any advice gratefully received.
After many years of being attracted to women’s clothes and envious of their bodies, crossdressing to experience feminine underwear of all kinds, routinely shaving head to toe in the winter months, feeling sorrowful when it was time to put my women’s thing away and return to being a “man”, I decided I wanted more and made an appointment with a transgender health clinic. This was the spring of 2019 when I was 65. I told the lead nurse practitioner there that I wanted to be more feminine, but not that I was a woman trapped in a male body. After several months of transgender counseling I decided to begin HRT, transition if you will, just before I turned 66 in August 2019. It’s coming up on five months. I have responded well for my age (I think), with unmistakable and noticeable breast development (I fill out a C cup in one brand of bra), very noticeably softer skin, a slow down of body hair growth, and increasing fullness in my thighs and bottom. Except for my wife who I’ve decided to separate from, family and friends have not been told. I know that I must tell them SOON.
I have scheduled appointments for electrolysis and surgical consultation (FFS, BA and SRS) this month (Jan 2020). However, I am still closeted and filled with some trepidation on venturing out as a woman. It would be great if I could establish a mtf trans friendship with someone farther down the road in their transition and real life experience. I have made some progress in that regard. So, though pleased with the physical changes, I am in this strange limbo, wear I am fearful of what’s to come and uncertain that I can be a succeed in the full transition to a transgender woman. I need to RIGHT NOW assemble a sensible mature woman’s wardrobe, practice make-up application, buy some good quality wigs, and begin moving and walking in a more feminine manner. It is too bad I didn’t do this earlier but life just got in the way. And with what I face, I am wondering if I have the energy to do it all!
I really love to hear from other older transitioning ladies out there. Is there any of this that has rung true for you?
Michelle, I definitely share your feelings. We have things in common. Sometimes it does seem like a limbo. Do one thing at a time because it can become overwhelming if your having many changes to deal with at once. The main thing at this point is yourself. Be your best friend and take care of your health. I’ve put off telling friends and family (my wife knows and a very few people) because I just don’t have the energy to put into dealing with everybody else. Electrolysis can be a long process, the sooner started the better. Sometimes I think about how Christopher Columbus must have felt, being uncertain of what’s ahead, having others in disagreement, maybe being ridiculed for his opinions and decisions and being responsible for the welfare of others. I’m sure he had fears and at times wondered if he made the right decisions. I don’t think he regretted his journey. I wish I had better wisdom to share. But one step at time can overcome mountains.
Morgan!
Thanks SO MUCH for responding to my post with intelligence and thoughtfulness. I will keep in mind what you said. Hugs to you.
Love, Jerri-Michelle
I do my coming out tu my family rwo years ago, i was 66 now i tell it to friends and i’m very happy and proud for it.
We are our worst ennemy… the scare we felt is like hitting a wall but when we pass trough that wall, we are free and lost a ton of bricks from our shoulder.
We are a kind of sailor driving a boat name our life so we are the one who decide the direction and never any one decite to your place
Thanks for your response, Claude Quesnel.
I have not been one to keep track of time that has passed. When asked, I’ve had to do some calculations to figure out my age. Nor do I recall a beginning to my feminine feelings as I’ve always felt the need to express them in secrecy. I was 59 when my dysphoria began to seriously effect my physical and mental health. Hormones became a medical necessity, even a cure. I’m in my third year of hormones and I feel great. My health has improved. Years of anxiety, depression, secrecy and suppression can take a toll on your health. Transitioning late in life can have its challenges, especially when dealing with family and close friends. I’ve no advice about that. Just do whatcha gotta do.
Morgan I think you have done a great job with your anti aging process! Your last line is simply the most insightful thing we all need. Well put!
Hi Morgan,
So, after three years on HRT that puts you at 62? You are very attractive in your photo.
Thank you Michelle. That’s very kind of you to say. My face has changed quite a bit. I’m drinking lots of water, eating fruits and veggies daily and taking care of my skin. I exercise, I hardly drink alcohol and don’t smoke. My doctor commented on how my skin has changed. I’m amazed too how years have been reversed. Thank you for saying, I appreciate the compliment.
I started wearing woman’s clothes when I was aboutb8 and up,wearing my mom’s clothes. She used to make me up and told me that I should be Petra. Now I am already 68 and let my woman inside take over.Noe I am extremely feminine and dress like it.
I started wearing Women’s clothing when I very young, it started with socks, cute colorful ones. Then I was going through coupons and saw an add for fishnet stockings, I think I was twelve…I went to the store and bought them, then I lost the feeling of wanting to dress until I was about 21. My Fiance cheated on me and left and then I started fully dressing, I never did that….make-up, wigs, skirts, stockings, everything….I was super happy during this time. Then I stopped again….I am now 40 gained some weight, not a lot but enough to make me ashamed of dressing, I,m at 180 I want to loose it and dress again….sigh…I just need someone or something to motivate me to do it.
You can do this sweetie I’m 59 and I’m still not sure if I can come out fully I have to a select number of people who are very understanding and supportive so you can do this just let her out once in a while
I had always known I didn’t fit into the stereotypical male profile but I didn’t act on it till I was 63. It cost me my marriage and family but other than the loneliness I feel I’m so glad that I transitioned. It feels great not having to pretend anymore. I can do my makeup, dress like I want and generally be my girly self. I’ve been on hormones for 3 years now and am preparing for breast augmentation. You only live once!!
I’ve started and stopped my female alter ego so many times I’ve lost count. But, here I am at 74 still trying to be a gurlly guy! It’s been in me since I was a pre-teen. I’ve tried to ignore my “JanaLee” side, but she’s still here!
Nothing enhances a feminine persona like a smile.
I started at 10 years old when I used to wear my mother’s clothes. I also used to go to school wearing a girls uniform. I was really skinny and really long hair so most of the other kids thought I was a girl. I’m now 58 and now get dressed up when I can which is often although I don’t live as a woman