Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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TBH, all that matters to me is that I present myself that befits my advancing years. I get a kick out of looking stylish and sophisticated BUT NOT OLD ! I am lucky that I’m not overweight and in good health so I tend to ‘put on the style’ ! As I said to a friend of mine recently “you are a long time dead” ENJOY LIFE ! I transitioned but still pre-op and love ever last nano-second of my femininity.
Go for it girls – life is not a rehearsal.
Love to all
Heather Xxx
Very,very nice.
interesting question, i mean i certainly try to be pretty. but realistically i haven’t had extensive surgery or hormone therapy, and i don’t look all that much like a woman on close inspection (sigh). so my goal is to blend in, because then i know that at least i have a feminine appearance, which really is good enough for me. no plans to do transgender or srs, but i do enjoy my cross dressing!
thanks Lucile
jamie
I’m only 5′-8″ but don’t have a feminine face so blending is not easy. But, despite my age I like young sexy styles, so don’t dress to blend in, but to look good at tgirl events. But there I’m not outrageous enough!
Hi Lucille,
I agree with most here by saying that blending in in the world at large is better than standing out unless you have been born female or have the body\face to pass without scrutiny. I think most crossdressers are not that passable and unfortunately age does limit the realm of possibilities.
All in all i feel blending would be preferred over having fingers pointing.
Wow your sexy! I wish I looked as good as you!
Surely it depends on where you are….. If you are on main St shopping you need to blend in, if you are attending a transgender function or social occasion you want to put on a show, wear something a bit risqué, high heals etc. x
In general I prefer to blend in and be see as just another woman in the crowd. That said its nice to be seen as one of the nicer looking women in that crowd!!!
I believe most women would like to be admired – but for the right reasons. No offense Lucille, but if you’re born female, then you’ll already have the right bone structure. Therefore extra attention might be exciting.
However, most of us who were born male and transitioned post puberty will have larger heavier frames may draw too much scrutiny and may find ourselves with a problem.
Although I would love to have attention, my safety must come first.
It is impossible for me to blend in. I’m 6’5″, and weigh 225, and not very pretty. I would love to be able to go out dressed and not have people stare and point, and laugh. Society still does not accept us, although strides have been made recently. I have also passed the 60 mark, so my best appearing years are behind me. I have long ago come to terms with the fact that I cannot go out on any but a few occasions. Life’s a bitch, then you die. Well, that may be overstating, but you get the point. I would love to be accepted as who I am, no matter how I chose to dress.