Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi terrific advice, i learned the body image and control thing from a voice coah a very long timago but its all true, I have noticed over many years in public situations. This is my concensus of why a smile goes along way to pass as a woman>> If u smile, especially at a Man, they will smile back and have atendancy to look somewhere else (usually at your breasts haha) but that Takes away from the investigative eyes going un wanted places. Am I right?
your comments couldnt be more direct and honest
I have tried your advices in my professional photosession especcially with a smile.
Very nice look, good job!
lucille,your so right..having real breasts now.(no longer stuffing,my bras ).hahaha…im always going for the look.and loving it!!!!!!! im always working it possing.mirror image is best.wether im in short shorts.skirts or a nice pair of jeans when i go out,im always wearing heals.and my breasts.in a tight t shirt,spaghetti strap.s most of the time braless.(i have 3/4 in nipples).loving my navy perfume an my lip gloss..loving your dos an don”ts..am really enjoying my nightly massages in the pool.feeling sinfully sexy.started running two weeks ago..will be doing arround three miles middle of august love working on the new me terri n texas
Hi Lucille, Thank’s for all your tips that you give us! I have found that posture has a lot to do with attitude and the way you carry yourself tells a lot about your feminine alure. The girls should look at beauty and fashion mag’s and check out the different ways women are photographed like,what is natural and what is over the top or not natural. Diana
Hi Lucille,
Your advice is always amazing and is always of immense help when trying to blend in as a woman in public situations.
Your tips to add little things like a smile and a pleasant expression and the right hand gestures are fantastic and so relevant. In my experience it’s the little things that become HUGE things when it comes to enhancing the overall look and image of my female self.
This is a wonderful thread to your blog. Many thanks for posting.
Claire x
Thanks for tips,its the small things that help x
You may think it’s silly but i work on my posture at my desk every day.A swival desk chair,anckels crossed or thighs together you know a little swivel goes a long way.
Thank you for all you do for us.
hugs.
joie