Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi
Just as what jasmine has said it’s hard to do good postire with that thing between my legs not to mention walking and sitting what is your edvice?
Thanks
Once you learn to Tuck right it will answer all your Problems sweet girl Laura
Rachel/Jasmine
I expect u found a solution since 2011, if not reply and I’ll write something which may help.
Dear Lucille, As usual your advice is great. My wife has known about my girl side since before we married and has been supportive and helpful in so many ways. she herself is extremely feminine and so so ladylike. Over the years she has coached me in so many ways about my deportment, actions, make-up and appropriate dress.
Thankfully her casual comments are now few and far between. She gave me five bits of advice on all aspects for looking, acting and appearing to be a woman. Learn all you can about how women dress, act etc. by observing, reading and then practice, practice and practice until it becomes second nature. Luv you and thanks for everything. Susan H.
Hi mam,,,, i am trying to practice on posture but it is not easy because the ugly little thing between my legs ,, so what is your advice?
Thanks
Jasmine
Hola Lucille (Hi! Lucille).
My English isn’t not enough good, but I want to say: believe me, you have been an enormous help to my journey across this turbulent ocean of feminization…
Espero sigas adelante con tu trabajo, pues siempres seras una mano amiga para las personas como yo.
Atentamente desde México,
Dolores Palacios.
I just came out to my BFF and you would not believe what a relief it is to have that weight lifted off my shoulders.She was very understanding and encouraged Me to be myself,especially around her.She is helping Me choose clothes and helping with My makeup.If I had known,I would have done it years ago.
Jess
You have such a special BFF
you definitely do have a very special BFF .. I’ve told her all but my BFF sonetimes still gets nervous around me when I’m in complete femme mode. My family suspects things but has never asked. For the most part, even when I’m in en femme mode I wear things that are womens but fir the most part gender neutral. my jeans are almost all gender neutral but they are womens, the same with most of my tops and coats. some of my shoes are VERY feminine with short heels and points others are more neutral. its hard fr me, very hard fr me because i always feel that ppl are just staring at me fr being a male body with female cloths and makeup. but my BFF is great. its great to have someone like that. you are so very right. Lauralynn
I love your advice and will contiue to become the most and sexiest female I can thanks to you I want to become a woman full time
Hiya. For all of us trying to be the woman we
KNOW that we are, any help is lovely.I agree
With Shell that it just makes you feel girly
And feminine, even if you’re only practising.
As always your tips are like pixey dust, not
Enough of it about but glorious when you’ve
Got it so you use it carefully
Love and kisses
Teri
I spend as much time as possible “People Watching” and your wonderful advise confirms what I have seen and digested. Although some time ago I got told off by my Partner for smiling to much, she called it a stupid grin! So like all things everything in moderation. I stay away from, what I can only call “Drag Queens” where every action (including make-up and dress) is so over the top. Your advise is spot on, and sometimes when doing normal things like stirring your coffee, holding a glass of wine, it just takes a little alteration to be fem. My motto is “Look, learn and do”
As always my best regards,
Lesley Ann Sanders.