Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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This is such an important area and I find I need to concentrate to ensure I do not drop into male traits – so easy to do. My sister, who knows the Christine side of me, keeps an eye on my deportment and gently reminds me if I slip – she’s a star, as is Lucille.
So appreciative of all your advice. I am on my second months of estradiol and am living full time female. It is so wonderful and exciting to be free of the turmoil I had been living in a male body. Thanks for everything .
Hi would loveeeee to talk to you as im in my first week of estradiol ((((aliciarem40@gmail.com))))) just want to see and match up our results and seeing if your results are happening and what your experiencing im sane normal transgender from Upstate NY
Me too, I love myself at last, and upped the estradiol. for the first time I am free and have super friends. Thank you Lucille
That is wonderful, Bobbi Jo! Congratulations and thank you for the kind words.
More wonderful and helpful tips. Bravo Lucille! I am ever so mindful of elbows in, and fluidity when moving.
Being male, it does not come natural, so practice is essential. Luckily, a smile IS natural. After all, dressing as a woman always brings a smile to my face. ;p
A.R. :
You look fabulous, lady. Your Smile is infectious. Great legs too.
Just a fabulous look.
At 73 yrs in October, been in public dressed since the 1960’s. I get out and about weekly with girlfriends.
ENJOY Being You!
Pics for your evaluation…T.J.
Great tips! I like the part about keeping elbows in when gesturing. The poor unsuspecting people behind me are MUCH safer that way! I know keeping small in general is good advice, but sometimes I just can’t resist stretching my arm out on a sofa back or some such. It feels SO good for a while. A hearty “Second” on consciously keeping a pleasant expression. Too many people, especially older ones, forget how sour they can look when they are actually feeling quite neutral and relaxed.
Since you asked about observations, I’ll just repeat some old news: girls-in-training have definitely got to remember not to sit like guys, to keep their legs together when sitting in a skirt. This is not always the case, and it’s not always easy in every situation to convey a hint to the “girl” (sometimes even natural ones also), to close off that view. I recall a code phrase from a long time ago. A mom or girlfriend would tell the careless one: “You’re taking my picture.”
Here I am “replying” to my own comment. Just have to relate an incident. As I was leaving a restuarant a woman at a nearby table complimented me on my “beautiful smile”. I was so pleased I nearly cried. I try to compliment people, yes on their smiles, too. I only hope that it makes others feel as really good as that woman made me feel. I know it’s not body language, but at least it’s language, and it can be used to reinforce your femininity. We all know that real men never give compliments.
Nothing I do helps me feel or look feminine and seeing women gets me down I have tried fenugreek and breast cream and I’m still flat need majer help ;(
Dearest Ms.Lucille,
As always your tips are wonderful.I have been practicing all of the ways to present myself and already people have said I am coming across much more feminine. How darling!! Thankyou so much beautiful Lady.Until next time,OXOX Femforever,love Michael.
Hi Lucille
Thanks so much for all you teachings and advisees , I learn so much from you that I become a very classy and elegant woman.
Love joanna
J.I. :
Seen you over past few years…you are more beautiful than ever! What a fantastic look for you.
Pics for your evaluation…remember, I will be 73 in October!!
T.J.
Lucille. Your tips are sound. I think that the technique of the ‘S’ figure makes so much sense
. I have seen ladies present themselves in such a way.
I have practised and perfected sitting, tucking the pleats of my skirt under my legs, and taking up minimal space.
Really wonderful guidance. Love Richard