Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Practicing the S Curve !!!
My mannerisms were naturally feminine. To avoid bullying and abuse, I had put on a facade of masculinity. After many years of maintaining the facade, it’s become a part of who I am also. Portraying masculinity has some benefits too. I’ve become quite comfortable with myself but I think I can appear androgynous, which can make some people uncomfortable. But I’d rather they be uncomfortable around me than me being uncomfortable around them.
Lucille,
That blonde in Sa Francisco has to outcall and shave off my beard so I don’t look like Aaron Rodgers.
Best wishes, Reginq
Tip 3, hand gestures, reminds me of when I was walking down the street while a woman approached. She was talking on her cell phone headset, of course to someone not present, but was still making vigoroujs hand gestures. Amusing, but so feminine.
I’ve always had some trouble with eye contact. Shy, I guess, or just naturally furtive? I’m working on that, but still, when I hold for a while, I feel kinda silly.
I would just like to say Thank You to Lucille for all of the fantastic advice you have given. You are truly an inspiration. I am a 56 year old crossdresser and with all of your inspirational advice I have never been more comfortable with myself. I truly wish I could afford your complete program but I am unable to work and feel it would be completely selfish of me to ask my lovely wife of 27 years to pay for it for me because she is the only source of income for us. But I do take and follow all of the free advice you are able to give. Sincerely ; William aka Willow
as tg female i watch other ladies how they do things..make up clothing mannerism and posture and it helps being not to noticed then you just blend in, but look a little fabulous.:)
Here’s some pics of me!
dayum u look beautiful gurl :0
Hello everyone ! I’m a fem cross dressing gay man and I’d love if any of you beautiful women could give me feedback on my Body languages/ Feminine body . I appreciate it so much ! <3
My sister and my Mom keep telling me to cross my legs when I sit down and to keep my elbows close to my body. Take small steps even if you are in a hurry. When chatting, any gestures made with your hands should be with an open palm and when you look at your nails, do not make a fist but splay your fingers and bend your wrist to look at them. Keep your shoulders back at all times and put your hands in your lap or a hand high on your when standing. By the way Caden, you look very lovely in your phots.
Hugs,
Donna
Donna
Those tips are very helpful and timeless!
Thanks for lovely tips!