Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Thanks Lucille I never stop speaking of you in Israel .
Women use to touch their body much more than men . They adjust their hair, touch their face, adjust their dress. It is a continuous movement contraposed to the relative immobility of men
I explain tha t, may be , antropologically : man had to stay still in the hunt ,to surprise , while woman had to direct on themselves, their beauty and appeal, men attention ( so they move )
Bodylanguage is more importend than make-up or clothes. Our gestures and posture are almost noticed first by other people. That is why we recognize a women as a women even when we look at her from a greater distance.
I was in line at a convenience store yesterday. There were several people (both men and women) in line ahead of me, so I had a good chance to compare stances. I noticed that all of the women had their feet pointed straight ahead, or nearly so, while the men tended to point their toes out. I know that seems minor, but as the saying goes, “the devil is in the details.”
As lucille says , it’s practice , practice , practice!
The more you do it the natural it will be.
Great look
You have arrived
This so very true and it’s a great reminder as well.
For those of y’all that are interested, my transition is going well and I’ve had my first 2 hormone shots with my 3rd one scheduled for next weekend.
FYI….the website link above is for my work. It’s listed under my male name until 8/4/11 when I do my legal name change.
Hi Lucille, You have been an inspiration to me. I have listened to the hypnotic video several times and have definately felt different, and now it is part of who I am. I have taken hormones and have seen a body difference also,and wanted to take the herbs you have recommended in the past. Anyway I just love what you’re doing for us girls. Hugs Lydia
Ever since I found this site, and have been using all the advice Lucille gives us here, It has helped me in so many ways. I actually had the best confidence test last weekend. A close friend took me to the pride parade in San Diego, and was enfemme. I got a lot of compliments. That was the longest I have been out enfemme, and It felt good!! XOXO
I have been practicing this for years. But now I use a cane due to arthritis in my knees. Thank you for the info.