Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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This is good advice, however I still feel uncomfortable when I am out in public.
I loved this as I am finding the more I think femme the more people do not notice me. When they do I now think it is because I am larger than most woman and they observe this. When they see you are just lerger but stil lgraqceful they tend to look away. If you do more to bring attention you get closer scrutiny.
i also notuce if i put on sandles and womans streach jeans and a loose top no one seems concerned. When I add to my hight with heels and go in a skirt I get more attention. Sometimes I like to just be in the crowd.
I have noticed that women walk to take up less space as well with one foot in front o the other while men walk in more linear fashion (left foot in line with left hip, right foot in line with right hip)
OMG Lucille..
I just started transition, but in fact, I’m following your advice (as good as I’m able to *snickers raising her hand to massage all the aching parts from practasing S-curves)for quite a while.. thank you so much for all your focus on helping us through this strange time..
*bisous*
Luv’ Danni
Hi Lucille
I just got done listening to you feminization program, feels so good that I had to order an new bra. There should be a pose of how to use the phone! I love being a woman.
well I always stand and sit feminine my hole life never having open legs when siting and the way I stand like when I look at old pictures of my self as a kid before my transition I sit and stand that way of a genetic women would my hole life and I’m glad I did feels go natural and I cat see why men have to take up so much room especially on the couch or when their is three people in the back seat in a car its earatating thank you for the reminder Lucille mats me think of it more
Being born intersexed, having female characteristics is second nature to me even though my father spend the 18 years I was growing up forcibly trying to act, stand and live like a male. When I started living my life as a woman, my natural instincts took over and I am sooo very glad it didn’t take. Having feminine body language is very important to me and thank you Lucile for your reminders and your blog!
Stephanie Stockton
I work very hard to sit very tucked-in/close, legs crossed always, hands in on my legs, shoulders in, and sit on edge of seat/sofa/chair, not laid back. I always strike a pose
when standing at elevators, doors, lobbies, hallways – with hips out and legs bent-back
at knees, one foot tucked in on its side, shoulders uneven. And practice smiling all
the time with my eyes wide, no scowls and heavy brow, but up and light and opened.
I also practice moving my head every 5-10 seconds from one side to the other as I
talk casually.