A common mistake some crossdressers and transgender women make is dressing too sexy. This often looks ridiculous – ESPECIALLY as you get older.
Does that mean you need to turn down your sex appeal after a certain age?
Absolutely not!
Instead, simply follow these 3 rules for dressing sexy at any age:
Rule #1: Show Some Skin (just not too much)
Short skirts and low cut tops are undeniably sexy, but you shouldn’t go too far with this. Here are a couple guidelines to keep in mind:
- Your skirt should be no shorter than fingertip length when you stand with your arms to your sides.
- Your top should show no more than 40% of your bust.
At the same time, you shouldn’t be TOO covered up since that just screams “old lady.” Show off your feminine assets, but do so in a tasteful and classy way.
Rule #2: Find the Right Proportions
Proportion refers to the way your clothes work together in length, width, size and volume.
For example:
- A short skirt paired with a short top tends to look slutty.
- A long skirt paired with a long top looks dowdy.
- A full skirt paired with a full top makes you look heavy.
- A tight skirt paired with a tight top can make you look like a sausage (unless you have a perfect body!).
You should never go too far in any one direction. That means if you wear something tight or skimpy, you should balance things out with the rest of your outfit.
For example:
- A short skirt should be paired with a more covered top.
- A skimpy top should be paired with a more covered bottom.
- A tight skirt should be paired with a fuller top.
- A tight top should be paired with a fuller skirt.
Rule #3: Wear Luxurious Fabrics
The final piece of the sexy puzzle is the fabrics you wear.
Think slutty and what comes to mind? A spandex skirt, barely there glittery top, and patent leather stripper boots, right?
Sexy, on the other hand, is associated with luxurious fabrics like silk, velvet, lace, and cashmere.
When shopping for clothes, look for fabrics that are rich and sensuous – rather than cheap and tacky.
Final Thoughts …
The bottom line is that you are NEVER too old to be your sexy femme self. Just be sure to keep it classy.
As always, I’ve love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please leave me your comments below!
And if you’re already mastered the art of sexy ageless dressing, don’t forget to include a photo. 🙂
Love,
Lucille
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OK, if we accept the unstated assumption that these 3 “rules” apply for gurls who want to go out in public and “pass” or not invite scrutiny, they’re great rules.
But that doesn’t describe all gurls at all times.
There are times we want to wear something just because it makes us happy and that’s OK. Wear the “forbidden fashions” around the house or with people who will appreciate it. Get some joy in your life. Don’t be ruled by rules. 😉
Thank you for the tips Lucille. Keeping it classy at any age is more sexy.
It has been my contention that three things will usually work:
1. If you wear a wig, pay the money for (an appropriately styled) one that is not “cheap.”
2. If you wear a bra, make sure it fits properly and does not enter a room 15 seconds before you do!
3. A nice, sincere smile!!!!!!
Virginia
Hey Girlfriend :
Just wanted to update you on my lastest wardobe pieces: Leggings.
I was looking for ( please forgive me, I wasn’t thinking ) mens pants, and the sales clerk said to me ” You should never consider wearing mens pants, ever again, you always come in here to look at the womens clothes, and I think you’d look so cute in leggings “, so I bought a pair, tried them on, and, I fell in love with them. No more mens pants for this gurl, from now on my main pants, or stockings, are goingt be leggings. These fit so tight and so wonderful,
and wil go great with my new blouses and skirts.
I knew leggings were a lot cheaper than typical pants, bt I had no idea that they were so comfortable. I started to collect leggings two months ago, and now I have six pairs that go with everything.
Being a crossdresser and a tranny is the best thing that ever chose my life. And you’re right, just because I’m not a young tranny does not mean I cant be a pretty gurl. I’m forty-seven, and I’m having the time of my life as a gurl.
Jayme
Cool. I love leggings too. They look really good with nice tunic or baby doll tops.
So right Girlfriend! Leggings work with about anything. Tunics and flirty skirts with appropriate heels. Don’t forget the toenails with an open toe pump or sandals!
I totally agree with all of your points! Love to all my sisters out there!
Thanks for this blog Lucille. I think being age appropriate as well as being classy and sexy is the way to go. The problem with some girls is that they dress like teenagers or girls half their age.
This blog is very clear on what to do and how you can also be sexy without overdoing it. We can all be the a little of both and not be an old lady all at the same time. I personally enjoy being a classy lady it’s something I’ve liked to project when I am en femme.
Link A R. :
Everyone is correct to call you Gorgeous. I am an old gal, 71, but trying hard to look as good as possible any time I go out. Don’t forget to apply perfume as your last article of dressing.
Enjoy being You! ! T.J
Hi Lynn
You are beautiful. And your outfit is to die for. I love the blouse. And you’re right us older girls can look classically sexy too. I’m 59 and have GG’s tell me I’m beautiful all the time, I think they’re lying but it makes a gurl feel good anyway. But back to you, hon you are gorgeous.
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
I always tried for the classy look. I know I have made mistakes but always wanted to be seen with class and believe people might treat me with respect that way. I’m 55 now.
Tina : OMG! ! I HAD TO STUDY YOUR PICTURE. I AM AMAZED, you look sooo good, beautiful waist & hips.
At 71, I appreciate all you are willing to do to present yourself in this picture. Would like to see more! !
Hope I am repping my 70+yr Old Gals.
T.J.
As another who is 65 and strives to offer a classy look i applaud your approach and am most impressed by your perfect look. You have grace, poise and would make a perfect companion
Regards
Tanya
As another who is 65 and strives to offer a classy look i applaud your approach and am most impressed by your perfect look. You have grace, poise and would make a perfect companion
Regards
Tanya
Tanya :
You do us Senior Citizen CDS justice. ..Lord, you look heavenly. Love the outfit, & the shoes.Hair& face is excellent
At 71 yo I appreciate what you have to do to look this good. Hope I make you proud of us Old Gals. ..T.J.
Hi Tina
You are from head to toe the most gorgeous woman I have seen. I adore your style, much like my own. I’m 59 and do dress my age, but I like to look nice, not frumpy or slutty. But back to you hon. Thank you for your picture, it’s so nice.
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
I love your attention to detail ! your nails ,jewelry, hair , I think that’s the foundation of being dressed. makes you look like you really made the effort so a conversation with others could begin .xoxo ,Lisa D.
you look great
I’m 63 6’3″ and I live in a VERY conservative city . I learned how to dress by looking at older women I know in media
Hi Ellen
You are lovely dear. Every thing looks so nice. I’ll bet you get compliments all the time.
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.