It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Some names feel like a perfect fit from the start, while others never quite resonate with us.
However, crossdressers and transgender women have the unique opportunity to choose their own feminine names.
Every great MTF name has a story behind it, and I’d love to hear YOURS.
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please tell us your story in the comments below, and if you can, share a photo too. It’s always lovely to put a face to a name!
Love,
Lucille
Don’t have a real story, since this was my nickname from childhood. Most of my relatives and friends still use it, so it makes things more comfortable and easier to transition.
Although I’ve been crossdressing for over forty years it was only five years ago when I decided I needed a femme name, from the outset I decided I didn’t want to choose a name of anyone I knew, from there on it was about saying names out loud until I heard one that I knew would be right for me. After a long time I read out the name Stephanie and immediately I knew it was THE one for me.
Choosing a surname name was easier as I’m a big fan of the Aston Martin Racing team so I took the surname Aston.
Just this last week I have now added a middle name. Since I came out one regret I’ve had was that my sister Diane who sadly passed away five years ago to cancer never know about my crossdressing . last week I asked my elderly parents if they would mind if I took the name Diane for a middle name to which they said it was a lovely gesture.
Stephanie xx
I had several favorites during the age of the Supermodel (1980s and 1990s) — MIss Christy Turlington, Miss Linda Evangelista, Miss Karen Mulder, and Miss Cindy Crawford were a few of them. But my favorite, who wasn’t quite as popular but who always appeared to be beautiful, classy and elegant, was Miss Tatjana Patitz. She avoided the limelight, for the most part, and lived in California, where she could be closer to nature. Sadly, Miss Tatjana passed away in January of this year. https://www.vogue.com/article/obituary-tatjana-patitz
As a chef i useed the herb angelica for a dessert garnishing,so i picked that name.
I thing it was a FANTASTIC name.
Im Jael Hatsune, because Jael was an Israeli heroine at war times and I’m a Marine ando also Jewish…. And Hatsune because i love that character… and thats all
My story is quite boring! I don’t why, but I have always liked the name Francesca. I guess with my birth name being Francis, I had to put up for many years of being mis spelt. I have lost count of the number of letters received, where I was addressed as Frances or Mrs/ Miss, basically through people not being able to tell the difference between the names. All because of one letter difference!!! I chose Francesca because it meant that I steered clear of the Francis/ Frances confusion!
I’ve always been a nerd obsessed with Batman. So I thought I could be Robin but spell it with a “y” to make it a bit more femme and cute.
I decided to adopt the feminine name,
Annette, because I once met
a beautiful and glamorously dressed
older Italian woman at a party
with that feminine name,
wearing a stunning red dress,
3 inch high heel pumps ,
and silky black sheer nylon stockings with pretty legs.
I was really impressed with how
gorgeous she looked attired like that, and I was jealous, and I only wanted
to look very attractive
and femininely dress just like her.
When I first came out to myself in therapy, I started out trying on a bunch of feminine names I’d liked over the years, but pretty soon I came to the realization I wanted to retain the initials of my birth name (“SLP”), which have a particular significance to me.
I pretty quickly settled on a variant of my birth surname, influenced by my admiration of the French Actress Clémence Poésy.
For my first name, I then went through a bunch of “S” names, but kept coming back to variations on my birth name, but thought the obvious “Stephanie” was too pedestrian (apologies to any Stephanies out there reading this).
I tried a bunch of others (Steffi, Stefanie, Stephany), but settled on “Stefania”, only to discover that folks had trouble pronouncing it from sight, so I changed it to be spelled with a “y” instead, which is more phonetic, and I like the look of better anyway.
My middle name is a feminized form of my birth middle name.